Dealing with a friend getting married

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For the past two years, I have known a friend who has dated a wonderful gentleman with a great personality who treats her friends with respect and I like him a lot. I have also been close to this girl friend for the last 5 years and she means the world to me. However, I have had a really hard time ever since that they got engaged and for the last 8 months, they have done nothing but do things around the wedding. As happy as I am for this friend who deserves prince charming, I have really felt left out. I am still single and I feel and I don't know what it is like to be with the significant other as I have never had a guy on my arms. Anyway, I feel like because they are really busy for this wedding that she really doesn't have time for me anymore. For instance, I recently moved into my own place about a year ago and had a house warming party and asked her to come over and help me set up. However, she went to look at wedding gowns that day and picked one out and had some other issues going on. So, they happened to come later and then left abruptly because her fiancee wanted to leave and get some other stuff done such as pay her father back for the gown.

I feel like all she does if talk about that stupid wedding and in some way or another I feel left out. I also have been feel like she is more interested in her fiancee than she is in her own friends which includes myself. For instance, it was my birthday yesterday, and my friend had a bride's maid luncheon for us and it was really nice and we each got nice little gift for the event and for keep sake. However, I was a little upset and jealous because the whole event seemed to revolve around her and anything that dealt with the wedding and no one got me any cards or gifts or wished me happy birthday and so I was upset.

I just feel like every time we get together that I seem to be getting mad at her because I feel like she is less interested in me than she used to be ever since she has met the right one.

Has anyone else felt the same way?

Used to have a friend like that. We always did stuff together till the priority went to the partner and you slowly get neglected like an old shoe. Can't really blame them for moving on with their lives though.

Yep I know people that were like that. TRUE friends do NOT do this to each other. Just because she is married doesn't make her the princess or better than you. But seems like she thinks she is better than you and looks down you. I think it was very rude of her to not even say happy birthday or give you a gift for your birthday.

She claims that she was thrown off because I originally had planned on throwing my party this weekend instead of last weekend. She evidently is dealing with a lot of stress right now with trying to make sure that everything is set for the day of the wedding. However, I some what do agree that she does seem to act as if she is better than I am because she is happening to be getting married, and that I have never found a guy to date yet. She has been acting like a little princess and I am sure she is just excited but she has seemed to have this attitude with me ever since they started dating. In many ways, I feel like she has abandoned me for him and the example above with the party was a great example. Her excuse on that one was that she needed to pay her father back for the dress which was fine. However, she claimed that she wanted to make up with Joseph and his family because she picked a fight with them earlier that week. I honestly wish that she would have called me on the phone and told me that they were only going to come over for a little while and then had to leave because they needed to reconcile on those issues. Instead, she, her fiancee, and another friend, just picked up their purses and seemed to take off with big phoney smiles on their faces. "Bye, we're leaving." I honestly wanted to slap her for that. In many other ways, I feel I would love to slap her because she is being arrogant because she is getting married and I am not.

Bro's before hoes, man.

i'm sure things will settle down again once the wedding's done with.
if she didn't care, i don't think she would've bothered to show up to the party at all.
& the smile may have been phony, but maybe it was for a different reason than you think.
The big day may be really nice for a bride, but every day until then can pretty much be hell on earth trying to organize it and make sure all the funds for it and everything else are in order (there's like a million different things that need doing and not everyone can afford a professional to plan their wedding for them).
she might have been just really stressed and smiling for your benefit to put a good face on things. Stressed people also tend to become a little self-absorbed. Once the wedding's finally over and done with, maybe she'll be able to focus a bit more on her friends again.

my stepsis had her wedding recently, and living under the same roof i've seen that kind of stress firsthand *shrug*.

I have heard of that saying. Bro's before hoes, but don't know what it means really.

It means putting your platonic friends ahead of your romantic interests.

My friend's marriage nearly destroyed my enterprise. He was an important part of things and just because his life wasn't turning out like he wanted it to, he took it out on me by downgrading my enterprise, he thought I was weak. Guess again, ya NT idiot.

I'm still here, doing better then ever and he's gone, still in the crap. And NTs think they are so much better then us Aspies! Idiots.

A friend of mine got married about 11 years ago. I wished her well and celebrated along with her. She's quite a bit older than me. I've overheard that her husband left her. It's not really any of my business, so I just don't ask.

When girls meet new boyfriends, get engaged or get married, and they ignore their other girl friends I just think it's immature and wrong. I think it's more natural when girls are in high school. They are young still. But when the girls are older they should know better.

This happened to someone I know but this can happen in some instances. A friend was engaged to be married to this man. Well I hardly ever heard from her and I thought she was being rude. It turned out that her fiance was a very jealous, possessive and insecure person. He wanted her to be with him all the time and she couldn't see her friends. I remember on AOL IM he wanted to know where she was because he has to know where she was since they were engaged. It doesn't look like your friend is in this type of relationship though.