I keep F'ing things up

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Once again, I misinterpreted things in the moment that I only understood later, after over analyzing them. I then stupidly tried to explain my misunderstanding (which no one ever wants to hear). Really messed up thing is.. What was happening was something I had been wanting for a long time. I just didn't recognize it in the moment and thought something else was happening.

Sorry so vague. I've been over the details so much in my head that it feels exhausting just thinking about writing it down. I guess I'm just looking for some consolation that this will pass and it may turn out the way I want it to despite my poor real time processing problems.

I came so close. And went from over-joyed and thrilled to disappointed and embarrassed.

join the club.
and btw, welcome to the club, Charlottez

Charlottez... Don't beat yourself up!! The quandary you have described has happened to me repeatedly since I was 16 years old (now I am 24) including last night. Its takes a special wisdom to act decisively in the moment that most NT's have naturally. Although I would prefer not to F*** things up verbally repeatedly, I can at least say I get better at not messing things up as much. LIFE IS LONG AND OTHER CHANCES WILL COME! Just be true to yourself, and keep faith that moments happen more than once.

To avoid this in the future, try to do your analyzing prior to the moment in question. Set realistic goals before you end up in the moment and stick to them (It is hard to not to overreach your goals in the moment admittedly; its hard not to get greedy but it pays off in less fallout should things go wrong). Sometimes people will be put off by overanalyzed explanations, so try and simplify what you say in the moment. Realize that in any HEALTHY relationship or job that fits you well, your success will be dependent on a series of moments, so if messing up one moment or task leads to failure, then maybe your opportunity lies somewhere else. Also, try not to stake all your happiness on one moment; make sure you have a source of joy/consolation that pays repeated, long term dividends. Your moment will come one day