Two years since my grandpa died

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It will be exactly 2 years Nov 5 that my grandpa died. He was 87 years old. I miss him so much. I cried so much during his funeral. Seeing him laying there just shocked me. I never attended a funeral before and never saw a deceased. It was very emotional for me. Dad had to take my hand so that I can touch my grandpa. Since it's getting close to Thanksgiving this is when I miss him the most. Has anyone attended a funeral of a loved one and just cried and cried? Or you didn't show any emotion? Have any of you lost a loved especially around Nov or Dec? My grandpa's death is first death of a loved one for me. I never met my other grandpa since he died when mom was in her teens. I never had a chance to say good bye to my grandpa. What is worse is that grandpa died at home. My grandma is 91 years old and lives alone in the same home that my grandparents bought in 1945.

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Were you close to your grandmother? You didn't go to funeral because it was too painful? Or was it the potential crowds and seeing people all tearful and emotion?

94 is a good life. My other grandma (mom's mom) died in July 2009. The way she passed was peaceful in some way .My eldest aunt called up the minister, and he came to the home and sang songs and read from the bible. My grandma opened her eyes. But when the minister left the home, my grandma closed her eyes and passed away.

Was your grandmother ill?

Sorry for your loss.

^^Greetings luvsterriers. I am very sorry that your grandfather has passed away. I believe that my happy grandfather very recently passed away also within July (upon my mother's Birthday).

^^I was happy that he enjoyed a wonderful life. I personally believe that as time is relative, my grandfather is still experiencing his life within the past. ^^ I do hope I have not upset my happy family as I believe that I was not upset at my lovely Grandfather's funeral. I really enjoyed this funeral as I could remember him and listen to stories of him.

My Grandpa died on February 27, 2000 from an anyeurism at the hospital in Redwater, Alberta. I was in grade 7 at the time. There are still times when I miss him and feel sad. My grandma is in her 80s and had just been diagnosed with cancer, but she is a strong woman and I have faith that she will make it through the chemo and all just fine. She lives in the same house that she did since they moved to Redwater in October 1996.

For those of you who lost your loved ones, do you cry and get depressed around the time they died? Friday, Nov 5 was 2 years that my grandpa died and at work I couldn't contain myself. I have my own office which makes it more private and a lot better when I have days where I get sad. I also have a door too and I do have windows but I put something to cover it. So really no one can look into my office and see me cry. I turn on the fan at full blast if I want to have a good cry. Do you men cry too? I don't know if my uncle or dad cry around this time. Dad did cry when he gave my grandpa's eulogy. Dad would go back and forth from Northern VA to Central NJ on weekends to take care of grandpa. It was a lot of work for grandma. But grandpa did get hospice care as well. My aunt and uncle live only 20-30 min from my grandparents house. I was very emotional during the funeral. Good thing the funeral mass had a closed casket. If it was opened the entire service I think I would have felt worse. Like I mentioned earlier, I never saw a dead body before or even felt one till my grandpa died. Aspergers adults do cry at funerals right? We can be emotional too and feel pain, right? I lost my other grandma in July 2009. I was very close to her but she died in Seoul and I'm in the US. If I was in Seoul when she died, I'm sure I would have been a lot worse. I still grieve over grandpa. I never met mom's dad so maybe that's why grandpa's death is very hard for me. Thanksgiving is coming up and it is very sad for me.

Here is the thing. For those of you who do get emotional on the anniversary of a loved ones death do you call up a friend for consult? I thought this man was a friend. He's in his early 40s, so much older than me. Anyways I cried on the phone and he asked me what was wrong and I told him it's the 2 year anniversary of my grandpa's death. He wasn't very compassionate on the phone. He considers himself a Christian man? When a friend is crying on the phone, the worse thing they can do is be rude. I actually was emotional when a boyfriend lost his grandma. I was very emotional when my aunt and uncle had to put their 13 year old Norfolk Terrier to sleep. That's another story though. Death is just sad.