How often do you feel suicidal?

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Is it aspieish to ask a question like that?
And is it weird to get a few moment of relief from those thoughts by wondering about how often everyone else thinks about it?

It depends on "how" you are thinking about it. If you are contemplating it because you find death fascinating and it is just kind of an interesting thought it is different than thinking about it in the hopeless "I might as well do myself in" kind of way.

I tend to have a lot of the first, little to none of the second type. I'm not depressed, but I do contemplate death quite a bit. I tend to be very "morbid" according to others around me who are NT, but my husband and I (both AS) are a good match for it. We aren't depressed, but we do like the kind of dark/gothic/morbid things in life.

Almost everyday. Feelings of loss (I miscarried my first child,) have consumed me until recently. Until today, actually. I started to accept it.

I'm sorry for your loss. I know a few women who miscarried, and it was hard on them too.

Anyway, to answer the topic - I used to feel very suicidal during the days when my OCD and panic attacks were out of control. It felt like ending my life was the only way to get relief. Thankfully I was put on the right medication, and now I' feel much happier and more alive than ever before.

I used to feel suicidal all the time. Yeah, that ended a few friendships. If only they could see me now, I'm free of it.

At times I feel like that is the only end result to my life...

Too often... daily is an understatement... it can be a constant thought pattern when I'm alone... usually its just a fleeting "eh, so much easier if I wasn't here..." or "hmm, wonder how things would progress if I just did it..." but sometimes its a serious contempilating...

I have to say, not a day goes by I don't see a sharp something, and just visualize myself doing something messed up with it... :X park 3rd floor or higher and, can't help but to migrate towards edge and stand there debating... >___<;;;

Its bad, and wrong, and I know it... and I'm trying to get help for it, but its extremely exhausting too... makes you wonder, when you're having the happiest time of your life since you were 10, and still debate it, what is wrong with you... :X!! !

But on the other hand, I don't think having an occasional thought like that is too terrible... think its only natural to be so frustrated with something (yourself and others included) to just want to "take the easy way out." (Honestly, I'm hard pressed to call it the "easy way"... after years of feeling like this, it takes a lot of courage to actually do it... its just not "courage" in the sense that anyone admires it, people admire you being a chickenshit and keep on living in misery; because at least theres a chance things will get better.... Sure, sometimes it is a lot harder to work through your problems, but really, physically getting yourself to attempt requires a lot of courage. <-- this does NOT mean I advocate anyone to attempt, feeling a smidgen of pride because "hey, least it took courage to do this"... just means in the black and white truth of things, it requires a lot of courage to do. It may be misguided, and misplaced, but it is still courage. :X)

But please... if you do think of it too often (too often by YOUR standards, if you think of it all the time, but you never feel like actually doing it, and it doesnt bother you, then fine... or if you only think of it every now and then, few and far between, but its a huge desire... then not fine!), please try to find some way to get help... get friends around you, if no friends, walk around in a public place where you'd be too embarrassed to do something drastic, go to a health center (many colleges and universities offer free mental health services), call a hotline, call a friend, call your parents, if only just to talk and think about something else. Read a book. Do whatever it is that tries to calm you down and distract you... its different for anyone, but find some way to try to get better =/

Its not easy. It really isn't, its going to be a battle, but it [hopefully] is a battle worth fighting for... wouldn't you rather be content and unsuicidal? Doesn't matter your social/fiscal/familial status, if you are content, that stuff doesn't matter... if you are suicidal because you cant get a bf/gf, maybe you can learn to adapt (with help of others, medicine, professionals, ignoring it, I don't know, whatever it is for you) to the point you are perfectly fine not having a bf/gf... <--- just getting what you want [at the moment] isn't what is important, being able to control your emotions over it, and learning to deal is... simply getting that bf/gf will not help or fix you, those suicidal thoughts may come up again because you were fired, or because you can't get a job, or because someone smashed your car... but if you learn how to manage it, then those things can happen and you can make through it much happier :X

I'm going through this myself... I'm trying so hard to keep going, and it is hard... it really is, but I want to be able to enjoy life for more than 10 minutes at a time.

Every day. I have to fight it every day, because my kids need me.

~Kate

I think about it weekly, but it's more about the release that comes after - than anything else - which is probably what everyone is talking about. The thing is that there are no take-backs and I'm not ready to punch out of this world yet - I still have things to do, hell we all do! The world needs us if its to keep this world from going insane. I am 30 years old and I have noticed a trend; the "Asperger-perspective" is an often effective counterbalance to the "group-think" neurotypicals do o-so well

Hang in there everyone and I'll do the same

Much love.

Feeling and thinking are not synonymous. I, for one, have no suicidal feelings. The thought enters my mind nearly every day, but there are no emotions attached to it. No intentions attached to it, either, for any of you who may be inclined to worry.

I ruminate on suicide a lot and feel suicidal most days. The psychiatrist said to me that was fine and people often do, as long as Im not planing on actually doing it right now, its ok. She said if I do decide to actually do it, then I should call them (ASTI team) but not to worry if Im not actually planning on doing it right then (or soon).

I think perhaps its a combination of aspergers making life quite hard as it interferes with the things which give most people reason to live (work, friendships, relationships). As well we often get OCD with intrusive thoughts which would lead us to ruminate on it a lot and have intrusive thoughts about suicide. Lastly people with aspergers tend to get special interests especially about things we want to understand so could think about suicide and death a lot. So those combined I think means it would be quite hard to get rid of suicidal thoughts.

I try to cope with them by letting them pass over me like a cigarette craveing, just makeing sure I dont give into the craveing/thought.

I hope you feel better soon, I enjoyed meeting you and thought you were a very lovely person.

Hello LotusBlossom,

I enjoyed meeting you too.
BTW I've now been formally diagnosed by the Maudsley. They were so sure that they told me there and then, as opposed to making me wait for more paperwork!

I think about suicide every few months or so.

right now.

Thats really good you were told straight away and at the Maudsley too. Chris (wp user "quaker") is going there for ocd and aspergers therapy and they sound very helpful. Hopefully they can help you feel better.

^ This, except sometimes there are emotions and quasi-intentions attached to it.