Married people or single people are happier?

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During the holidays is when probably single people are lonely. Is being married really the key to happiness? I see young beautiful couples in church smiling and laughing and their kids are so pretty. Does that mean that they are 100% happy and that their marriage is perfect? There is never a sign of unhappiness when I see couples like this. But who knows what goes on at their home right? See, most of mom's friends have grand children. Their daughters or sons are around my age and are married and have kids. It makes me feel so stupid and left out sometimes. My cousin (dad's side) is several years older than me. She got married really young. (She was 22 and 4 months pregnant, and her spouse was 21) They have 4 kids now. She has this attitude where she thinks she's better than me because she is married and has kids. So I just wonder am I a loser to be single, no kids and still live at home? I don't like to state my age but I will say I'm younger than 35 but older than 25. I wonder for those of you who are married and who have aspergers how do you deal? Does your spouse also have aspergers? What about your kids? I watch on Tru TV sometimes "Who The BLEEP Did I Marry." It's just that marriage is such a great thing. To wear the perfect dress, walk down the aisle and go on the honey moon with your spouse and start your own family.

a lot of that is for show. personally, i'd elope and appear in public every once in a while. my fiancee wants a nice big wedding, however, so i'll let him have one because it's apparently a big day. i've lived with my soon-to-be spouse for 4 years and have been with him with 5. he's a very forgiving, supportive person and my best friend. yes, we were friends first, then got together. i'm apprehensive about having children because i don't think i'm mature enough to handle something so attentive to my time.
how do you define loser?
idk, people stress appearances. they show you what they want to show you. one of the reasons is to make themselves feel better about themselves, if they can find some kind of measuring stick to measure people with. the stick is slotted by arbitrary standards derived from their subjective opinion.

I think it depends on the people you are referring to.

I wonder where all the homely, stupid looking couples with bratty cabbage head children hang out in your town? So you don't see them at home or in the car when they're griping at each other about every tiny flaw and disagreeing about the settings on the air conditioner, and who hates whose mother and which one is flirting with an old SO on Facebook, that doesn't mean they're really happy or their lives are perfect. And when you don't think fast on your feet you'll be on the losing end of every argument. Being alone is not the worst thing in the world. There is no answer to your question because happiness doesn't come from a relationship or the lack of one. It comes from being satisfied with who you are.