Feeling empty inside, thinking diffrently from mom

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I'm an aviation snob. I love flying. But it's no common deal for me. My family rarely travels(dependant on free miles), like every 2-3 years. I feel like a doughnut, having an empty hole inside of me. It's like I'm living eating only rice! Nothing else!

I have bought a cheapo RC plane 3-4 years ago, which didn't fly(damn you Made in China stuff!!) and now, I want to bring my RC plane life back. I have plenty of money to spend on a budget plane, but my mom wants me to save it for me to go gliding for real.

Or course, I love gliders! But without gliding here, and a very rare chance to go abroad again, I'll probably suffer from having the hole inside of me. I need RC flying to fill the gap. And spending hours on the flying simulator didn't help! But that's not all, I want to buy this cool 7-seat van for my first car(after I get my licence in the future of course!), but my mom wants me to get a Nissan March(or Nissan Micra in certain regions). But this van gets almost 60 MPG in mileage and low C02! But my mom doesn't like it, and the seats aren't luxurious like a Chrysler Voyager or something!

I'm quite sick of it that my mom and I have completely diffrent minds. And the more I let myself flow with my mom's thoughts, the emptyer I feel. Maybe perhaps, I should build my own full-size airplane, then crash and die so she would learn her lesson!

please stick around for a while longer.

How old are you? I recognize myself in your troubles, however my mom has been way more accepting towards my needs. The real issues however go beyond and are conflicting with the world view of my mother. It's more than understandable, but hope strives me to explain her, if only could she be able to see past her prejudices.

I too love to be free as a bird, when you fly, you free yourself from boundaries. When I was young, I was in a RC Club and I built myself a rookie plane. at that time the plane + engine cost ~130euros and remote ~100 euros. My dad never bought me that remote and I have never flown that plane. My dad died of cancer in spring this year.

I intended to write you words of advice but ended up in a storm of my own suppressed feelings.

My dad always felt highly of me, but never gave me the chance to show him what im capable of. When I took the steps to inform my dad that it's time for me to reach out for my independence, the way the words fit into his reality and the way he perceived me were depressing. We had lots of materialistic issues and this was all he saw in my speech.

I urge you to think how to express yourself and take the bull by the horns. Truthfully tell your mom how this all makes you feel, It might not go smoothly at first, but as time goes on, words and thoughts are getting processed and true meanings may be found.

it's your life, not your mom's

Yeah, but she's like airport security minus the pat-pat

you should compromise with your mother. The planes are more important so don't compromise on that but perhaps on the car. If she sees that your willing to negotiate that might help you. As a mother I'd be way more willing to compromise if it was a negotiation. Lucky for my kids I understand about obsessions........it is your life but you are her baby and she wants to protect you. Maybe consider getting a pilot's license(work and career=responsible and trustworthy)