Thanks A WHOLE lot husband............

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Ok I manage both kids all day and both might I add are on the spectrum. I met with teachers, and had to deal with the upset in my routine. I get the kids home make dinner relax and daughter is fussy as can be that I've not hung the ornaments in the EXACT positions that they should be. I lovingly help her get them positioned keep her brother from eating the ornaments that she made and check my grades for my classes. WELL I took daughter for a new diaper only to come back and find son on the counter inching closer to the lollipops(which he doesn't get unless he uses the toilet) Anyways I get him down 7 times and then answer the door when I return son has dumped a bunch of clean dishes in the sink and soap everywhere. So I spend an hour cleaning up and when it gets down to one layer of dishes in the sink I go sit down and relax. I also give daughter some cake....thinking it's not been thrown out, does not have mold, does not look odd.

Well when Husband gets home.
1. WHY IS the tree white?
it's cheaper, our daughter lovingly said this one mommy for the entire 30 minutes we were picking out trees
2 Why are YOU feeding MY daughter bad food
IF it's bad THROW IT OUT but NOOOO he can't ever throw anything out after 45 minutes of interrogation about the cake while I'm relaxing and enjoying my special interest. I tell him 8 freaking times to leave me the h#%l alone.
Is "Leave me alone" unclear or somehow ambigous? He says I lied and am A LIAR b/c I said no I didn't give her any cake while doing my special interest......I just told him whatever I thought would get him off my back so I could continue what I was doing....
because me doing my research is FAR MORE INTERESTING. I spend all DA#%ed day having to deal w/ppl I just want MY time and then he gets mad b/c I tell him I want sex and wake him up at 4:00 am to ask about it. Up at 5 am with the kids and NO FREAKING BREAKS OR HELP.............but OH NO he wants an "emotional connection" and I'm difficult.
3. YOU don't care and are sloppy b/c you left the potato cutter in the sink
I spent a whole danged hour cleaning

He is so unreasonable

Can you put your kids in day care for a couple days a week?

My wife was a stay at home mother. But we still put the kids in day care for 2 days a week. I t helped with the stress level in the house allot.

They are both on the spectrum and that makes finding childcare NOT fun. Day Cares tend to want non aggressive children that can talk and sit nicely/play nicely. Plus our finances are pinched thanks to me not having a job(but that's another rant)

But at least you made your daughter's day because you bought the tree she wanted and gave her cake.

There is that.....and she was so happy. It's not so much the kids that are the problem.....they are generally sweet natured. It's the fact that husband expects SOO much of me. I'm no Donna Reed. Even my son was happy when he saw the tree. Actually I guess part of it was I was on sensory overload from going to Wal-mart and just needed some down time.

My husband never understands the need for down time either, or the sensory overload, or getting absorbed in my special interests. *sigh* All this is too familiar. eek.

I don't have any brilliant advice, unfortunately, just "I've been there".

~Kate