deleted my (former) best friend from facebook

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My best friend in middle school and high school, got married a few years back. I filmed the ungrateful son of a b***h's wedding, and since he married that harpy and they've had a kid, I've heard nothing from him, in spite of my attempts to call, email, FB message. The last straw was at Christmas. I emailed him before the holidays to see if he'd be in town, and suggested we all meet up, since I haven't seen t heir kid yet. Not a goddamn reply, and I later learned he came back to town a whole week! The guy works for Microsoft. He can claim no excuses for not getting my messages. He's wired in!

f**k him. f**k him. f**k him, f**k him! f**k him and his humorless, selfish wife. f**k him and his high paying, insured, benefits included job. f**k their ugly baby. f**k all those obnoxious images they post every goddamn day of that stupid baby. f**k them for flaunting their happiness in my face. f**k them for forgetting about me, and ignoring me in spite of what I've done for them. f**k him for not having the decency to even answer my emails. He no longer exists. If he died tomorrow, I would not shed a tear. He can go to hell!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

Someone needs a hug...

Love is light, and hatred is darkness.

Either is equally preferable to the middle: apathy, which is all that this former friend of mine could give. He just didn't care at all. I wish to be loved, but if I cannot be loved, I would rather be hated then not thought of at all...because in one case you matter in some way, and the other, not a sausage.

Excellent phrase. Never heard that before. I may hold on to that one

I totally understand your feelings. I had the very same thing happen with a 25 year friend a couple of years ago and the situation almost caused me a nervous breakdown.

Basically, this friend and I grew up together. We weren't best friends, but we often hung out together, etc. A couple of years ago he was elected mayor of the small community in which he now resides and community was hit by a devestating flood soon after. Due to the fact that he was my friend, I thought a had a duty of friendship to go out to his community and help him get things back up. SInce I was active in a lot of civic and political acitivies, I got him in touch with people, researched for him how other communities dealt with flood disasters, attended meetings to help the community and did physical volunteer work to help people get in their homes and businesses get up in running. Eight months in to this situation, after I had put lots of time, money, effort and my reputation in to helping him, I get a nasty e-mail out of the blue telling me to no longer bother him, to no longer help his community, and he accused me of wanting a homosexual relationship with him. To the best of my knowledge, I do not know what could of caused him to act this way toward me, everything with our friendship was going fine up to that point. What made the problem even worse is that he is not responded to e-mails or telephone calls from me, denied my Facebook friend requests, and I never see him at public meetings, even though he is still the mayor. What makes it worse is that my friend has won a number of awards on the local, state and national level for his leadership. For piece of mind, I would like to know what happened so a dialogue about the events would be healthy.

The only thing that I would say to do is to move on from this person and get involved with something else that would take up your time. You will also meet other fulfilling friendships in this way. Also, if you can, try to reconnect with others in your life. These are the things that worked for me after the above mentioned situation. Am I still upset about how my friend treated me? Yes, but since he is not willing to talk, there is nothing that I can really do about it.

I have a friend from elementary school who is slow to responding to my messages or never replies. Hard to keep in touch and today I made arrangements to go up and see her. One time she tired to make arrangements to see me but I was too busy but she didn't keep in contact to make a new arrangement or even call me. So I decided I would have to drive up into Washington to see her. It gets very frustrating.

Actually, at times, love may be the darkness, and hatred may be the light. It depends on what kind of person either of the feelings are directed towards. If love is directed towards a player that tricks a girl into thinking that he loves her, just so he can take her virginity and then dump her, then that love is pure darkness. On the other hand, if hatred is directed towards that player, and he even is killed, as a result of the hatred, then that hatred is pure, beautiful light.

It sounds pretty awful actually. I think you did the right thing in deleting him.

That's not love, that's some perv trying to get into a girl's pants. Hatred, however, is never justifiable. That example is just sad. No human being deserves death.

I didn't say it was love. I asked, does a guy of that sort deserve love?

Why does no human deserve death? Why? Can you answer that?

There are worse things in the world than death. However I disagree with the fact noone deserves it. I can think of a lot of people the world would be better without. Animal and people torturers, Sexual absusers, rapists, serial killers, sociopaths.

Wow, is that what people think when they get no response to their e-mail?

I better start responding to people's e-mail more often then, even if it means shattering the illusion of me having a life.

Yes, a lot of things are worse than death. Honestly, death isn't even that bad, in the end. That's why it'd be appropriate to see to that the death of the deserving person is as horrid as possible... including torture. Torture doesn't necessarily have to be evil; rather a just response to terrible deeds of certain people. Of course, I realize that there are some very bad people, out there, that see it the same way as I do... thinking that they instead are the ones in the right.

I have noticed with my AS that I am a lot more sensitive to people responding to my e-mails and other correspondence than most other people are. I wonder if it is due to the fact that people are ambivilent to my exsistance. Anytime someone takes time out of their day to write a personal message back to me means a lot. Tranversely, people have also used e-mail to send some pretty nasty stuff to me, there always the fear of that.

In this situation as well one experience that I have had overall is the fact that once people get married, their significant other takes up all of their time and energy. I have a friend/classmate who disappeared off of the face of the earth after he got married, he not only doesn't correspond with me anymore, but most of my other classmates as well. I had another friend's wife who thought that my friend and I were spending too much time togther, thought that he should be at home supporting her and the kids, the friendship was abruptly ended without any explanation. On the other hand, my best friend from growing up recently came back into my life, due in part to a push from his wife to rekindle the friendship. He had a nasty homelife, my family helped him pull himself up by the bootstraps, due to dynamics and other issues that we both faced we were not able to see eye to eye. Due to the part that my family played in his life, she found it important that we reconnect to some degree.

BrianRuns, I know exactly how it feels to have your best friend screw you over and completely abandon you like that.

My former best friend from college did that to me about 4 years ago and I never got over it. I recently emailed her and she sent me nothing back. She went around my back shortly after ditching me back then to call my dad when I wrote her in an AIM that I was becoming suicidal again, to think my dad got more calls from my best friend than I did that year.

All I can advise you to do is to avoid being like me and not let this betrayal or abandonment do you in for the rest of your life. My hate and pain for what she did to me consumed my choices and beliefs that I've fallen into a severe depression and in severe financial debt with lots of other issues that resulted in myself becoming unemployable. It's turned me into a terrible person that I can't escape being. It's a really difficult thing to let this kind of thing go and move on...but I think if you give it some time it will. Just don't drag the hurt along with you cause it really can subconsciously cause you to do things you wouldn't normally do and wreck alot of great opportunities for you. There are better people out there as far as friends go...