Birthday Anxiety - I'm experiencing it now

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09 Dec 2010, 4:01 am

Oh gosh, my birthday is in a few days. I am stressed out of my mind. I just need to vent for a little bit to help calm me. I know I have posted about this before, but now it is actually happening!

I have two visits to get through. One with my family and one with a friend. I know the friend has got me a special present which I am very nervous about. I don't know what the present will be. I hope it's not something "touching" that will make me cry when I open it.

I just want to cope and get through it all. The bonus for me is that the visits are scheduled for the day after my birthday, not the actual day which for me is great because by then I am expecting the heightened anxiety I normally feel on my actual birthday to have died down. For me, that is the best I could have hoped for. On my actual birthday day I am so badly worked up that I feel on the verge of tears or a panic attack the whole day.

I am sick of feeling this way every year :-( other people feel excited about their birthdays but for me, birthdays are absolutely awful.



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09 Dec 2010, 5:56 am

Birthday anxiety? I just told my family I don't want to do anything for my birthday. It's right after Christmas so I'm used to it being ignored.
I'd rather just spend it with one friend anyway.

Anyway, you need to calm down. Put it out of your mind. Watch some TV or read. It is possible to beat anxious thoughts. I used to have them severely then I just turned them off. Just be grateful that your friend got you a present. I always have less than enthusiastic reactions when I get a present.


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09 Dec 2010, 6:33 am

I never tell people my birthday and i never celebrate it. I never went out for my 18th or 21st. I can completely relate. Being the centre of attention from bdays I find very uncomfortable. Sorry I'm not being much help, just want u to know ur definitely not alone.



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09 Dec 2010, 8:12 am

ponies wrote:
Oh gosh, my birthday is in a few days. I am stressed out of my mind. I just need to vent for a little bit to help calm me. I know I have posted about this before, but now it is actually happening!

I have two visits to get through. One with my family and one with a friend. I know the friend has got me a special present which I am very nervous about. I don't know what the present will be. I hope it's not something "touching" that will make me cry when I open it.

I just want to cope and get through it all. The bonus for me is that the visits are scheduled for the day after my birthday, not the actual day which for me is great because by then I am expecting the heightened anxiety I normally feel on my actual birthday to have died down. For me, that is the best I could have hoped for. On my actual birthday day I am so badly worked up that I feel on the verge of tears or a panic attack the whole day.

I am sick of feeling this way every year :-( other people feel excited about their birthdays but for me, birthdays are absolutely awful.

I don't like birthdays either. I used to have fun birthdays with huge parties up until the age of nine. Then, nobody would show up at my parties. It was horrible. I would rather have just started out with nobody showing up instead of getting used to people showing up then nothing. You can't miss what you never had.



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09 Dec 2010, 9:06 am

ponies wrote:
I have two visits to get through. One with my family and one with a friend. I know the friend has got me a special present which I am very nervous about. I don't know what the present will be. I hope it's not something "touching" that will make me cry when I open it.

I just want to cope and get through it all.

Thank all gift-givers for their kind considerations, then just set the packages aside and open them later while/when you are home and alone. If the gift-givers are truly considerate, they will not mind ... and if they are not, maybe they will not bother you at all next year.


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