I need a success story..

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Hi all! I am recently diagnosed, and seeing myself more and more lately. As I have been exposed to my own self-centeredness and my inability to connect with others or truly share conversation has been thrown in my face, I have become more and more withdrawn.

I used to live with friends and enjoyed their company well enough, but after our home became more and more a place to 'party' and I was less and less able to connect with them, I have retracted myself from the situation. I now live alone and have severed most ties with my small group of friends. Outside of sharing a home together, we really did not have much in common.

Now I am living in a studio apartment. I have a job which keeps me occupied a lot of the time (though I often worry about my performance there as I have difficulty speaking or interacting socially with my co-workers. I work for a mortuary service and, as my co-workers say, either we have to 'keep it light' or if we take the job too seriously, it will begin to get to us. I do not have any emotional issues with my line of work but I do not provide the mutual levity they are looking for, and fear this is already causing my coworkers to be angry with me).

When I am not working, I am home reading, or at the library. Though I enjoy my time alone and take my meals with a side of knowledge, I fear I will not be able to make new friends and will not retain much that I learn because I have no one to 're-explain' it to and since I do not use my knowledge, it is not always sealed in my brain. I am like many of you suicidal but do not like to acknowledge these thoughts as giving word to them gives them even more time to occupy my thoughts.

Anyone have a success story where you returned from friendlessness?

You could write up your findings, or even dictate them to audio. Maybe write a blog, or make you tube videos. I recognize that I have a need to share things with people that sometimes goes unmet.



Kind of. I'm a lot better at making happier/smoother superficial relationships. I have a couple of NT friends who I see now and then, though we aren't super close. I also have some friends I made here at wrong planet who I like to keep in close contact with. You might try attending local groups of things that interest you, that might help you fulfill some social needs.

Also, I'm just a lot more comfortable with being alone. It gives me time and space to meditate, which helps support my ability to be present, happy and relaxed. Even with people.

I hope you feel better.

I remember something similar in high school... I was friends with a small click of people for longest time... Maybe because no one would accept me. One day I called a friend out for being a sloth and taking advantage of me for financial gains. Anyways I ended up getting in a fight with one of my friends and then the rest of my friends joined his band wagon almost overnight! And it was the best thing that ever happened to me!! !

I filled the void with lots and lots of work. Through a part time and full time job, starting a small business, and acing advanced academics classes I earned a full ride scholarship through college for a University Leadership Program. What I experienced is that engaging day to day through goals, initiatives, and accomplishments you meet like minded people you can network and connect with. There was a lot of as*holes along the way but don't let that break your spirits. Right now, Im pretty high pretty high up in the food chain, married, own three small companies, and make enough money to buy whatever I want within reason. I dont have a whole lot of close friends but Im really to busy to care.

Im guessing if your friends a partying a wee bit to much they really are not as a accomplished as they should be. They're probably a bunch of as*holes you dont need in your life anyway. Focus on you and what you want to accomplish one step at a time then grab that bull by the horns and do it 110%.

I have had a couple of stretchhes where I was essentially friendless - two three friends on the planet without actual contact. and most "friends" casuals without real bonding. Most peopledon't bond that much.

Age about 32 I ang my first real similar mind friend gravitated together - given time, we find one another.Now have a handful of similars I am in touch with..

Quality beats quantity, and there are ways we sense each otrher. Hold on and wait for it.

I need a success story too. Not so much in the academic or professional fields (I'm about to get a bachelors degree and I just got a really nice recommendation letter from my school for jobfinding purposes), but in my love life. I can't get a girlfriend to save my life, and every time I try I just seem to screw it up all the time. I have a string of failures, and I have to admit it's making my situation worse...

Sorry I don't have much to offer in this thread, just saying I can sympathize with what you're going through...