My gradfather died last week

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20 Dec 2010, 5:19 pm

well, my grandfather died on december 8th. the reason why i didn't post this earlier because i really didn't wanna talk about it. i need help coping. help me out



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20 Dec 2010, 5:28 pm

I'm sorry to hear that. I assume you were close to him. What are the things about him that made him particularly important to you?


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20 Dec 2010, 5:55 pm

I'm sorry to hear that. It's tough to lose someone that you look up to. :cry:

Maybe you can celebrate his life somehow. Get your family to cook his favourite supper or listen to his favourite music on YouTube.


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21 Dec 2010, 8:29 am

My grandfather died 2 years ago and I miss him so much. I still have days where I just want to be alone and just cry and cry. His death was first death of loved one for me. It is extremely hard since its close to Christmas. Were you close to your grandfather as well?


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21 Dec 2010, 3:10 pm

I've lost my grandfather too and we were very close. I understand what you are going through and I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It might help making a certain small table or a wall area a memorial to him to honor him and how much he has meant to you. You can start with placing your favorite photographs of him with other things that represent things he loved to do, and whatever else you feel is appropriate. Some people have incense and or a candle and or flowers or a live plant. The holidays are the worse while you're mourning a loved one. Hang in there and allow yourself to grieve.


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