Random crying then feeling better afterwards

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IN the past before I when of AS and I just thought I was perhaps insane, I used to have a random cry and then feel immidiately better after. Nothing from the day or the time caused me to shed tears such as somebody dying or problems at school/family. Perhaps it was the cumulative effect of a few years of not crying and the shades of feeling down from AS social failures and frustration of not knowing why I was the way I was....but the way in which I cried was the strangest...I didnt feel it coming naturally but I felt like i should so I had to conjure up really really sad scenarios in my head that made me....kind of like voluntarily cleaning out sadness that couldnt get out.

what is this....

This happens to me sometimes, too! In fact, it happened to me this evening. Sometimes I feel really down for no apparent reason and I want to cry to get it out, but I just can't, so then I depress myself further in order for me to be able to cry. After a while I do start to feel better, too. I am not sure why this is but, hey, at least you know you're not online now...xD

got the t-shirt :d

sad scenarios didn't involve visions of yourself taking a toaster into a bathtub did they? (thats what they're like for me)

I just did this 5 minutes ago. I still feel incredibly down and certainly would not mind dying right now, but am glad to get the tears out

no, for me I envision sad things like if my parents or a good friend died and imagined how id feel. I would be able to conjure up the emotions as if it happened....my imagination is ridiculously REAL. thats how i day dream happy things but I am still in touch with reality in that I know what reality is and whats not. I feel pretty close to psychosis when I do this...

glad to see im not the only one who does this, I thought this was one of the weirdest things i ever do and perhaps that im just insane. Maybe its because ppl with AS have a hard time appropriately expressing ourselves and that frustration and sadness bottles up to the point where we do this?

If crying makes you feel better, I don't see anything wrong with it. This whole "men don't cry"-business is a load of crap if you ask me. Why should half the human race not be allowed to find some emotional relief just because they happened to inherit an Y-chromosome instead of another X?

As to making oneself cry because one needs to purge one's feelings rather than out of genuine, spontanous sadness, I also do that. Sad movies or slow-paced string music help with that, but for me the most effective way is to hug our dog, bury my face in his fur and to just let the inherent sadness well to the surface. It kind of helps me to know that I will not be alone while I'm crying.

i think if you cut open on autopsy a typical macho guy who only expressed anger during his lifetime and never cried, you'd find corrosion from lack of lubricating tears.

me too, sometimes i cant help but think about what if my OH died...or my dogs...or my sister or anyoen else really

i start to have a little panic and have to remind myself it isn't happening

Sometimes I would have angry or violent thoughts without any real cause, and I would envision scenarios similar to what you described. I think I remember reading something about how it had to do with the amount of dopamine in the brain.

I wish I could cry. I haven't had a good hard cry in a while; the feeling afterwards is euphoric for me.

This seems really healthy though in that the accumulated stress that builds up over a while suddenly gets released. Crying doesn't necessarily have to be triggered by something specific, but letting it out seems to be the key to finally letting everything go. It seems perfectly healthy and normal, at least to me.

That's a great idea. I do the same thing too, I think I know just the right songs to help me get it all out. I've pictured sad things too, although I wouldn't recommend making it a habit cause then it will make yourself insane. A real good cry is very therapeutic! It's just a way to get all the freaking tension we accumulate over time. It's the simplest day to day stuff that gets to me. That's better than people who can't ever cry but just go around making everyone else miserable! I've been like that too and it's a lot worse.

Emotionalism - Ive seen autistic people start crying for no obvious reason and think its called this.

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/emotionalism

I think it may be more common in autism, couldn't find any connection between the two in the quick search I did on google.

Crying is usually harmless,

if anyone can identify triggers Id be interested to find out

Think spontaneous crying may be the body trying to relieve built up stress, or if you think something is really profound or beautiful, [which I think is as reason why neurotypical people cry at times]

interesting observation: babies cry eg if they have colic, what purpose does crying have in infancy? [I know it alerts others to pain or fear] but it isn;t limited to these.

It probably means you have a lot of pain and crying is just a good way of dealing with it.

However, crying can also be a symptom of a physical or neurological condition. I don't mean to scare you here. A schoolmate of mine when I was in my early teens would randomly cry. We made fun of him for crying all the time. Turns out they discovered he had diabetes. When they started treating the diabetes, the crying stopped. I also believe that crying can be part of Tourette syndrome.

If your worried, you might want to talk to your doctor.