Stuff I probably shouldn't talk about but will anyway

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Well, looks like my mother and "stepfather" Tarak/Terry are finally breaking up. That's been a long time coming and has involved a lot of things my mother shouldn't have put up with, and really some things I shouldn't have either.

They got into a huge argument on Christmas Eve because my mom mentioned that Tarak had been buying crap for his family back in Tunisia. This is while he claims that we have no money. Then apparently yesterday or today my mom found out that he's put like $5000 on a credit card in the past two months. Of course he's always been weird with his bank accounts and doesn't trust my mom to spend money right.

He's also drinking yet again apparently. This is despite how he should be the last person who drinks since he got a DUI and apparently had some incident where he threatened to kill his more or less adoptive parents while he was drunk. And acted pretty psychotic all the time when he used to drink.

Of course his adoptive parents, Carol and Lee, rather typical old rich people, seem to trust him for some odd reason.

So this will be rather stressful, but I just can't help but talk about people who piss me off and their stupidly supportive adoptive parents. 

I can see how this guy is very irritating to you, Dennis. I don't think I would get along with him well myself.

It sounds like the next days or weeks are going to be very emotionally demanding for both you and your mother. Please try to keep in mind that none of this is your fault. I don't think you did anything wrong in this.

Also, I think you should make certain that you get enough time for yourself when you need it. When you feel like things are getting too much for you, it's absolutely okay to retreat for a while and try to regain some of your mental energy before you turn to trying to solve the matter at hand again.
If you feel like you need emotional support, there is not only WP, but you can also turn towards your mother and your RL friends. Even if you do not want to tell them what exactly is eating at you, you can let them know that you are feeling down and could do with a bit of comfort. On the other hand, your mother will probably find it very helpful if she can find some emotional support with you, so try to be there for her as good as you can.

I hope all of you make it trough this difficult transition all right and find some new peace on the other side.

Sometimes talking to people who care can help.

Sometimes "Not" talking to people who "Don't" care can help.

Just think how great it will be to get past this.

Thanks for the advice so far.