How do you not get little to bring you down?

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Whenever I do something that might be deemed socially unacceptable, it completely ruins my whole day and I just feel miserable. My head starts hurting and I drift off to sleep to avoid the pain that I feel. How do I not let little things like that to bring me down?

I would love some advice.

EDIT: I just noticed the mistake I made on the thread title. I think you guys know what I mean anyway.

If i am having a good day and some nitwit says/dose something that upsets me beyond a certain point i play video games, usually ones where i make things explode, it usually calms me down, or i focus on one of my special interests. Hope i helped

Last edited by Titangeek on 08 Jan 2011, 12:41 am, edited 1 time in total.

by telling yourself that you are only human and not a perfect being, nor is anybody else under the sun. by learning to accept yourself, warts and all, as being a mere human and not yet an angel. by telling yourself that you can only do your best, and that you will try again tomorrow, and by not giving it another thought until then. by honestly living by the golden rule, which enables you to look at your reflection in the mirror and truthfully/unhesitatingly say to yourself, "i did my best to not hurt anybody, i did not intentionally hurt anybody, i did not expect more from anybody than i do from myself."

dear abby prints a new-year's blurb about "just for today..." -

"Just For Today"-

*Just for today: I will live through this day only. I will not brood about yesterday or obsess about tomorrow. I will not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all of my problems at once. I know that I can do something for 24 hours that would overhwhelm me if i had to keep it up for a lifetime.
*Just for today: I will be happy. I will not dwell on thoughts that depress me. If my mind fills with clouds, I will chase them away and fill it with sunshine.
*Just for today: I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things that i can correct and accept those I cannot.
*Just for today: I will improve my mind. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration. I will not be a mental loafer.
*Just for today: I will make a conscious effort to be agreeable. I will be kind and courteous to those who cross my path, and I'll not speak ill of others. I will improve my appearance, speak softly, and not interrupt when someone else is talking.
*Just for today: I will refrain from improving anybody but myself.
*Just for today: I will something positive to improve my health. If I'm a smoker, I'll quit. If I am overweight, I will eat healthfully - if only *just for today. And not only that, I will get off the couch and take a brisk walk, even if it's only around the block.
*Just for today: I will gather the courage to do what is right and take responsibility for my own actions.

The beauty of "just for today" is that you don't have to do the whole ball of wax, you can start on just one of 'em and work your way up from there. And it is just for today, as tomorrow is just another [to]day.

blah blah, you are one of the good ones. Most of the kids today are controlled by evil. They are dumb. They let evil tell them what to do, think, wear and how to act and so on. You are not part of that group. Be proud that you are different and that you stand out. Do not feel ashamed for doing what is socially unacceptable because most of those people dont know what the hell they are doing. They are on the wrong path. Eventually we will try to get this turned around and the socially acceptable will be positive things. Keep pushing forward and don't let anyone ever keep you down.

Also vice-versa: I did not expect more from myself than i do from anybody (else). Do you expect perfection from others as well? Don't beat yourself over nothing - nobody is perfect. I'm sure you have strengths in some other areas.

Like Bill Waterson would say: I find my life is a lot easier the lower I keep everyone's expectations, (including your own).

All social constructs are merely a matter of agreement, and that's why they differ. They are artificially made, and adhering to them speaks nothing of our inner abilities. Be gentle to yourself - by making yourself ill you're not doing a service to anyone. Just accept whatever happened and move on.