I hate having average genetics.
Well not to sound, racist, but are you caucasian? I'm Asian... Chinese in particular, how do you think I had it to grow up in the mid 80s, in Edmonton, where Nam refugees settled? when I try to live a constructive life as a citizen born HERE. To be compared as a "G", or be made fun of with the nut size? If you're white belive me yours is larger! (there you go. Genetics).
As a Chinese, you're pretty much hated, your country is villified (with good reason), as a Dictatorship where animals are skinned alive, parents accidently kill their children playing warcraft, currency manipulator, takey overer (when you've legally earned the resources to live a decent life and deserve some finer things in life) with roles such as Ming the Merciless, and Asian Gangsters, (I loved how the gangsters on Departed were Chinese) etc etc etc. Where as Caucasian heros and heriones, live magical nuclear familiar bliss, romance on line, save the city, have magical Christmases, and saved the world from tyranny, little caucasian children have magical powers of imagination, or even alien powers. (although the girl on Race to With Mountain was cute), And look even Magical Shrley Temple speaks Chinese! (Stowaway),
Chinese kids on movies? Kevin the Clumsy boy scout on Up (ie me) typical Aspie there, clumsy ambitious geting merit badges, he came from a devorced home. Then there's the bullies on Karate Kid (the new one), Kung Fu Panda... Joy Luck Club: A rapist, a gangster, a cheapskate, on Die Hard ( A terrorist), on Bill and Ted (although that was funny, but a warlord that trashes the mall), A SERVANT (Green Hornet), the only time a Chinese was a hero was the Crow, where a zombie rockstar comes back and extracts revenge.
So what about us Chinese Aspies? we have the short stick. Mine is very very short, I went to a bathouse here in Cangzhou! As an Chinese Aspie. I'd give anything to be YOU. White.... I'm sorry if sound coarse, and get booted from the system. But Aspies are not known to be great liars. At least you live in a place where Autism is ADDRESSED, and you CAN go to school. Parents here travel from the peasant countryside untouched since Imperial China. They come into the city trying to find help, looking and looking for help for their child freaking out, while working menial jobs, heart broken, live in a country with NO TOILETS (the rural China) NO HEAT, poor diet, no money, with the child not being able to go to school until later. Is he "Average"?
That's your response? That's the best you can come up with?
Why not offer constructive advice?
I thought you were just making statements. Your last question seemed rhetorical. Besides, I've seen you rejecting everyone else's advice, and I think I have given you advice before and it was ignored. No one here owes you anything. If you really want help, it is better to be gracious about it.
The cause of suffering is wanting what isn't. The way to peace and happiness is to accept what isn't and make the most of what is.
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As a Chinese, you're pretty much hated, your country is villified (with good reason), as a Dictatorship where animals are skinned alive, parents accidently kill their children playing warcraft, currency manipulator, takey overer (when you've legally earned the resources to live a decent life and deserve some finer things in life) with roles such as Ming the Merciless, and Asian Gangsters, (I loved how the gangsters on Departed were Chinese) etc etc etc. Where as Caucasian heros and heriones, live magical nuclear familiar bliss, romance on line, save the city, have magical Christmases, and saved the world from tyranny, little caucasian children have magical powers of imagination, or even alien powers. (although the girl on Race to With Mountain was cute), And look even Magical Shrley Temple speaks Chinese! (Stowaway),
Chinese kids on movies? Kevin the Clumsy boy scout on Up (ie me) typical Aspie there, clumsy ambitious geting merit badges, he came from a devorced home. Then there's the bullies on Karate Kid (the new one), Kung Fu Panda... Joy Luck Club: A rapist, a gangster, a cheapskate, on Die Hard ( A terrorist), on Bill and Ted (although that was funny, but a warlord that trashes the mall), A SERVANT (Green Hornet), the only time a Chinese was a hero was the Crow, where a zombie rockstar comes back and extracts revenge.
So what about us Chinese Aspies? we have the short stick. Mine is very very short, I went to a bathouse here in Cangzhou! As an Chinese Aspie. I'd give anything to be YOU. White.... I'm sorry if sound coarse, and get booted from the system. But Aspies are not known to be great liars. At least you live in a place where Autism is ADDRESSED, and you CAN go to school. Parents here travel from the peasant countryside untouched since Imperial China. They come into the city trying to find help, looking and looking for help for their child freaking out, while working menial jobs, heart broken, live in a country with NO TOILETS (the rural China) NO HEAT, poor diet, no money, with the child not being able to go to school until later. Is he "Average"?
I hate having an average intellect
I hate having an average height
I hate my average face
I hate being mediocre
Why couldn't I be at least brilliant or something?
You really think being brilliant would make a difference? I'm up at the high end of the Un-Dumb scale, and all it's really done for me is allow me to live a very frustrated life. I am continually struck by the paradox. I was blessed/cursed with enough smarts to keep me moving through the school system. But with NO CLUE as to how all this human activity around me actually worked, EVERY attempt to find ways to externalize my thoughts and ideas has met with failure.
What is worse? Being hungry? Or being hungry while watching someone else cook and eat delicious food? I am fully aware of what a smart person is capable of. I see what they can accomplish, how they can bring their ideas into fruition, gain satisfaction from actualizing their curiosity in ways that are meaningful to them. I get to watch them cook their food to perfection and enjoy eating it. I am not just hungry, I know what food smells like, I know what it looks like, I see the pleasure it brings when another eats it at a table to which I am not invited.
You think being smart will fix your problems?
Having said this, the other side of the paradox is that I am smart enough that I have muddled through. I haven't had to endure the indignity of an institution. I haven't had to hope some agency for the disabled will be able to find someone to cook my meals and hope that person actually comes to do it. I have been both blessed and cursed with intelligence.
This is the key:
There are people in this forum that are much more "low functioning" than I. And yet they find ways to approach life that are dignified and surprisingly, no - confoundingly - absent of self-pity.
All each of us can do is to give 100% to life with the gifts and deficits given us. This is what makes each of us unique. What binds us together is that we can share burdens just as easily as triumphs. What tears us apart is when we expect others to carry our burdens and we steal others triumphs.
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I hate having an average intellect
I hate having an average height
I hate my average face
I hate being mediocre
Why couldn't I be at least brilliant or something?
I'm not sure what average intellect would entail. It all depends on your definition of intelligence. Most of your average-ness deals with looks. Do you have any strengths or weaknesses? If so, that's not mediocre. Strengths can be something seemingly insignificant, such as running fast. It doesn't have to be something that directly translates into a job. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but some people don't know who they are. So, who are you? The more you say you are average in a pejorative way, the lesser you will become. You need a kick start of some sort.
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I concur with wavefreak58. I have above-average intelligence, looks, and height, and none of it has gotten me anywhere. I still go to a community college, get average grades, and work at a menial job, and I'm still dateless. Unless you have superior social skills, being smart/tall/good-looking is overrated.
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That's your response? That's the best you can come up with?
Why not offer constructive advice?
You are the product of millions of years of evolution, you live in a society that is the product of millenniums of evolution.
WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT?!?!

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