Separation anxiety :(

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I have a bad case of separation anxiety, where when my mom leaves the house or I go to school I start to get really paranoid even a little scared, how do I counter this?

The normal way for small children to deal with separation anxiety is to find a substitute object which they use to calm themselves when their mother is not around. In a way they project their feelings towards their mother onto this object and having this object with them makes it easier to deal with their mother being away. In a way that object becomes a substitute mother that helps the child to deal with his/her emotions. In many cases this object is some kind of toy (like a teddy bear) or the proverbial security blanket.

I'm not saying that I think you are on the emotional level of a small child. What I'm trying to get at is that there is a very effective way to deal with separation anxiety that works for most people without them even fully realizing it at the time. Maybe you can find a way to use this mechanism to deal with your mother's absence? For example, a mobile phone can also be a token of your being able to call you mother at any time and talk to her. Or a small, soft object could be kneaded and help you to dissipate some of the emotional energy into physical activity. Something that belongs or belonged to your mother might also be helpful as it would remind you of her and of how she takes care of you even when she's away.