Ok well yesterday my friend (aspie) and I (both female) went for a driving lesson in a manual car (we both have automatic licences) with a driving instructor who was clearly a lesbian and very vulgar she liked to swear a lot of and stuff. There was two issues for me one was that I found the actual driving of a manual car very hard my aspie brain didn't like it. Also I found her very hard to handle because she kept touching my leg, shoulder and getting very close to my boobs although not touching them. I didn't say something because I didn't want to make an issue of it at the time but it made me feel very uncomfortable. I asked my friend to help me by giving a code word in future so that i do say something but like she said i am the only one who knows for sure that I feel uncomfortable. The instructors language was also totally inappropriateshe called a learner driver a "f*****g idiot"and swore repeatedly. As my mum used to say those kinds of things are black and white you dont do them in a professional situation fullstop. A similar thing happened a few months ago with my ex next door neighbour he is now like 70 and he kept grabbing me for a hug again it made me feel so uncomfy and like my friend said he was a sleaze. I understand it is hard for my friend too because she would also find it difficult to say something although I think in those kinds of situations it is sometimes needed although I would find it hard as well. Any suggestions on how both me and her can handle these type things in the future? I would like Chloe my friend to not just help me stand up for myself but also standup for what is right and what is wrong. Chloe hassaid she didnt actually mind her despite all this, for me once you overstep the mark itiswrong and you are gone. Mum feels I should make a complaint Imight but havent decided yet.
The second issue was that when we tried to explain our AS she basically dismissed it and said "I can't tell youse have a disability" I was really mad by that because it sounded so dismissive and showed complete ignorance and we have enough of that in society.
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