How do you cope with being so alone?

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I can't figure it out (how to deal with it).

No-one gets me.

Some people think they do, but they have no idea.

I've got friends that I've had for years who don't know a god damn thing about me that matters.

They couldn't understand if they tried.

I have absolutely no-one to talk to.

It's really starting to wear on me....

I don't.

Find a way to not be alone.
Even if it's one small step at a time.

I became social, regardless of my difficulties. I started loving each and every person I met. And even though it made some people uncomfortable, a lot of people really like it. That's how I dealt with being alone.

The problem is that I'm very social.

I'm a musician.

I meet people all the time and have lots of "close" friends.

But they don't understand me and I don't think that they ever will.

I even have a girlfriend, but she doesn't have the slightest clue what she's in store for.

I'm alone. Always have been. Always will be. Even when I'm surrounded by people.

Even when I'm surrounded by "friends".

And I don't know how to deal.

Looks like you're in a much better boat than a lot of people around here.
Maybe start appreciating what you have and embracing it for what it is.

What more could you bloody want? You already have more than almost everyone here. As long as you complicate yourself, you will not be understood.

Trust me guys, just because I have an obsession (music) that allows me to be around people, doesn't make it any easier.

I put up with enough prejudice from NT people who don't understand me, I don't need it from the people who possibly could.

In fact if anything, I'm more consistently reminded of my social failings.

It doesn't help me feel any less alone than those of us who never meet anyone.

Maybe find an aspie friend or someone else whom you might be able to better develop a shared understanding with?

Why not help them to understand you? Why not, instead of seeing failure, see an opportunity to improve?

I wish I knew. I can't stand to be around most people for long, but get too lonely when left by myself for a while

Mindfulness and equanimity + hobbies.

I spend all day spamming WP.