can't talk

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Tonight I went to social group for people with aspergers. After the game
which was enjoyable. The group went to wait in the cafeteria
and everyone was chatting and I could not say hardly anything, the things
I did say were twaddle. My mind was blank, i really struggled to say anything.
I think I must appear unfriendly because nobody says anything except one or two
and of course don't bother to continue to talk after my one word reply. This is
going to take forever to overcome. How to people talk and be confident?
I don't really have that many opportunities to socialise and i keep stuffing
up. I don't think i am going to have any friends just be isolated.
am i going to be struggling with this bugbear for the rest of my life.

I was like that when I was younger. What changed that was experience. I purposely put myself into social situations and slowly improved by banter, flirting and small talk skills. It did not come quickly. It was a slog. If you want to improve those skills, you'll probably need to do that too.

Yeah, exposure is your friend. The more you do it the more you learn what to do. It is a scary, fun and exhausting process.