Facebook can get so depressing sometimes...

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Whenever I browse through my friends' FB pages, I feel like I'm constantly being slapped in the face with the reality that I really don't have many close friends. They get a million responses to every single one of their status updates, whereas I only garner a like or two and maybe a couple responses, if I'm lucky. They also get a million comments on all the pictures they post of themselves, whereas nobody ever seems to notice whenever I post a picture of myself. It's like nobody even acknowledges my existence. Most of my friends are simply acquaintances. Most of the people I've friended on FB probably just saw my friend request (or my page) and went, "Oh, it's Mathew! I know him. I better send him a friend request/approve his request" and then they never even look at my page again.

I often feel like nobody outside of my family truly gives a f**k about me.

Join the club! I constantly see FB pics of my friend and her boyfriend and it makes me wish I had a boyfriend. Talks of going out with friends and I DON'T have friends to go out with. I know how it feels.

Yep. its mostly me posting funny stuff and maybe the 3 friends that get the jokes hitting like.

I have a lot of facebook friends. Mostly, they are people that I met at some time, and who decided to add me. It doesn't make them real friends. Mostly I read what they write, and I write an occasional update, but for the most part, I don't care what they write, and they don't care what I write. There are about 3 or 4 exceptions.

Well I guess we must be doing something wrong on FaceBook or as i like to call it the social-status network. where is the big time multibillion social network for people with disabilities?

Yeah, same, lol. I still think it's worth it though when some random people get a joke or something. Or any of my closer friends. *Holy Day* get the reference? no? I'm posting it anyway, haha!

My facebook is the same way. I rarely get any posts unless it is a family member. The only way I get any interaction is through posting on other people's walls which is usually awkward since I hardly know most of them or haven't spoken to them since high school.

When I had a miscarriage, it was very heartbreaking seeing photos of babies and children from my old school mates. Now I can join the club.

I have online friends and people from here and my family and relatives on my facebook page. You can participate by responding to their wall comments or posting your status on the wall. Posting comments to photos and stuff. That's how I do it but i do it if I feel like it.

I am glad I am not on facebook. But if I was all I would be able to post atm is cat and dog pictures. Mind you they are always popular.

Most of the people that have tons and tons of posts and friends in facebook only have a small amount of close friends. Their facebook contacts make more noise than yours, but ultimately what decides what's a close friend is how the people act when you are going through a hard time. I can assure you that most people in the world, NT or AS can only count on just about 2 or 3 people for that. The rest are just people that spam your facebook page.

It never really appealed to me. What is the point of it?

Far better to socialise around a specific interest than 'socialising' merely for the sake of it.

I find the Facebook drama and attention disturbing.

It's bad enough to have to be careful about what you say on an internet forum with people you don't know. But making conversations with people you do know on Facebook...with your picture in full view...and other friends seeing the things you write? That is a lot of chaos just begging to happen.

I quit not because I wasn't getting attention. I quit because I was hating the kind of attention I was getting.

I feel the same way. They have comments on all their updates, huge friends lists, I see others doing things with their life when I'm stuck right now, and they get people randomly commenting on their wall. I see people who've randomly removed me (granted I've changed my name so it may be accidental I suppose) or people who know me but don't add me (again, may be due to the name change). I GREATLY dislike that comments I make to others can be seen by friends - I don't understand Facebook's lack of privacy/hit-or-miss privacy.

I do wonder how many people read my updates, and it also bothers me there are no photo's of me; everyone else has hundreds of photo's of them having fun - I don't 'get' fun, those group shots with friends leaning in looking like they're having a good time, I'd never be able to be in such a shot which makes me look anti-social and feel like I'm missing up on life. Asperger's is bad enough, but being unemployed too means even less of a social life so even worse when you see other's having a social life.

Worse still I see photos of a lot of my friends going out without me.
Many of my friends I met through a job I left 5 years ago, people I used to go out with, babysit their kids, go to their weddings, some helped me move and some I considered close friends. They all still work there so they have work nights-out with their new work mates which obviously I can't go to as I no longer work there (even if I was able to go I left due to constructive dismissal so wouldn't want to risk seeing old manager). Most of my friends don't come out with me any more because they can't afford to. Even if they don't go out with each other they can maintain their friendships as they see each other every day, they add more and more people to their group as more people start working there. I see them making comments to each other and I just feel more distant from them because I'm on the outside of the group now, it's almost like they're no longer my friends any more. It's not a nice feeling.

This is the problem with a SOCIAL networking site, for those of us not great socially it makes us feel all the worse for it.

dont feel bad. I check my facebook once a month and I never see any posts on my wall or messages.

I kinda like it that way somehow.. I cant imagine having to enslave myself to checking a silly website every day or several times a day to see if anyone sent me something.

Yes the whole experience is just comparing yourself unfavourably to nts. The hundreds of friends compared to your 35 aquiantances. The hundred pics of them socialising compared your one solitary pic. The hundred responses compared to your none.

I check it everyday. f**k knows why!

I'm in a similar situation right now. Facebook is getting depressing for me because everyone seems to be doing something with their lives, like going to school or working, and I've just graduated from high school and don't know what to do with MY life. What's worse was seeing one of my old friends who've I had a breakup with with a new group of friends in a photo somebody posted, so I'm going to stop going on Facebook, at least temporarily because it's been making me very sad.