advice on coping with bu(c)

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I started this topic to see if anyone had any PRATICIAL that actually [/u]WORKS[/u]?

None of the usual BS please, I'm after tried, tested and true solutions.

Help an aspie out. What's BU?

Oh that, it's just my not-so-skilled-profiency at text coding


It just means it should be bold and underlined.


Bs - b******

bu(c) = bullying.

I did with it with passive resistance, I did nothing until they lost interest. Option B is an older, or sometimes younger sibling. If you don't have one, look into Big Brothers of America, or something similar where you are, or make friends with a cop, or some big guy with a similar or different impairment. Remember that the bully's father probably beats him, and is more likely to die a voilent death before 30.
-Hope this helps a little,
Mark


PS: As to text coding, try clicking preview before submit.

You cant put underlining and bolding in topic headings.

Thanks. Mrmark but I highly doubt that all the bullies' fathers beats then and I highly doubt all of them are likely to die before 30 unless they really **** me off and even then, it's not that likely.


28/29 people (rough estimate - likely more) doubt all their fathers bully them somehow.

Didn't know yu couldn't put text formattng in titles.

While I don't dout that people aren't all born bad, I just think it is higly unlikely that all of them are victims of bullying themselves. That's all.

For a lot of fathers, the only relationship they know how to have with thier children involves a belt.

Im not sure I understand the question....are you asking for advice for dealing with bullies?If so...

As a female I had ir much easier then many males, people made rude comments to me but never actually hit me or anything....

My approach to such comments was either to use humor....

The say,"your ugly"

I respond,"Thats kind of a lame adjuctive...I prefer thinking of myself as...a hidiously deformed creature...but your not exactly a super model yourself..."

ussually bullies like to get laughter and approval from their peers (most of who dont really like the person but are with them for security) if you can use your intellect and humor to bring negative attention to the bully they are not as likely to pick on you because they want to avoid being embarrassed in fron of peers.

they say,"hey spaz"(followed by laughter from peers.)

I say.."why are you so rude to me....I really cant help the way i walk and talk and I dont understand why you care.Maybe it makes you feel better about your own insecurities to focus on my imperfections but it doesnt actually MAKE you a better person...maybe you should spend more of your time and energy improving yourself so you dont need to pick on other people so much?"(Try and sound very concerned and compassionate to them like you are actually concerned about their best interest)

Both methods are based on the concept that the bully is actually very insecure and looking for the approval of peers(who are very fical because they dont actually like the bully)So, if you can make the experience not successful by getting other peers on your side useing intellect,honesty and humor...the bully will actually avoid you out of fear of embarassment and the unknown...

I know that this approach takes some practice....I used to have "imagenary conversations" in my head to practice such "comebacks"...it doesnt always work but often enough that I still use the technique when I have to...

As far as physical violence....dont know