My friend committed suicide earlier this week

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I wasnt super good friends with her or anything but we met at a house party two years ago and became friends because we both had mutual friends from my high school. She was a very interesting and intelligent girl and I had no idea she was troubled. I hadnt seen her in a while and the last time i almost saw her was a year ago when we almost met up to go partying one night, but it didnt happen becuase I was a little too far to meet up with her. I regret this so much now and wish i had gone to be with her that night. I also had a minor crush on this girl for a whille and that makes it so much more painful. Now, I have this empty feeling inside and its smothering me

I dont know the details like how she did it or even what day it happened but I am overwhlemed with emotion and grief. It hurts so bad to lose some one. Rest in Peace Alexis

I'm sorry about your loss. It's tough to lose someone to suicide. I could imagine how much tougher it would be, if you had a bit of a crush on that person. Are there any happy memories of her that you could think of?

Oh, how hard.

That's heartbreaking. I'm sorry for your loss. If she touched your life in such a way, I can't begin to imagine how horrible this time must be for her family.

Hello tangomike,

I'm very sorry.

I had a similar experience. My senior year in college (1989-90), a freshman lived on our floor. We weren't close or anything, but we saw each other once in a while. As I recall, she was a vegetarian, mainly for moral reasons.

After I graduated, she transferred to another school, graduated on time, and went on to earn her doctorate and become a high-ranking scientist. Almost ten years ago, I decided to reconnect with her, and we exchanged a couple of emails and had an in-depth telephone conversation. She mentioned she'd previously been depressed, but seemed to have gotten better on a permanent basis. She also was buying a house with her boyfriend.

Imagine my surprise when, a few years later, I saw an article online dedicated to her memory. I contacted one of the authors, and was told she had taken her own life in November 2005.

Like I said, she and I were never close. But I do wonder sometimes if I'd kept in touch with her more often after our conversation, maybe just a time or three each year. Of course I'll never know, and odds are even if I'd done that it wouldn't have changed anything.

Tangomike, you mentioned mutual friends. Maybe you can reach out to them and see if there is anything you can do. You might even deepen or even possibly gain a friendship or two. And you may certainly appreciate the friends you have more.

Cheers,

This is awful. I'm sorry, the loved ones are hit really hard.

Will keep you in my thoughts.

My condolences; I know how that feels. A co-worker of mine whom I was semi-friends with committed (accidental, we think) suicide back in July 2009.

sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss.

That sucks. My condolences to you and his family.

A guy in m year killed himself a few years ago. I was suicidal around the same time, but at the last minute, I told my parents I wanted to go on holiday with them and my little brother- it was quite out of character for me (they were going to Norway.. I hate the cold) and it involved skipping a week of college. When I got back, I heard the news that he'd killed himself.

I feel a bit weird thinking back to it.. like I got passed over or something. I think if I'd stayed at home, it would have been me instead (though apparently he'd been battling depression for a while too). He was a lovely guy.

The first year or so afterwards, I kept thinking I saw him in crowds. We were only aquaintences so it was a bit surprising.