I want to get out! (I need advice...)

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So you know how some aspies might not be capable of having normal, functional lives? I'm probably one of them. I'm sure there are a lot of aspies that can live on their own and hold down jobs and generally take care of themselves. I don't think I can do that @_@
I'm not a spoiled rich brat, but I'm pretty dependent on my parents and maids - it's not like I want them to do everything for me but sometimes I find that I can't do it myself. I can't even tie my f*****g hair, how embarassing is that? (I've tried, by the way. I'm practicing, but it feels so awkward!) My sense of hygiene is wonky, and I can't concentrate long enough to organize my life and I'm too depressed to be able to instigate a lifestyle change (not that I would know how to go about one )

I want to be independent. I desperately want to be independent. But I can't do that when all the people around me know me as immature, clumsy, and dependent. I am all of that, but how can I change when I have all of them reminding me of that? I want to study abroad (I'm sixteen, turning seventeen this year - I'll be off to college in 2012). I think I can develop some sort of independence if I do, but ironically I can't study abroad if I'm not an independent person already =_____= I dunno, I might be wrong about this. I'm a teenager. I can't claim to know what I'm doing even though sometimes I do. But I want to get away from my family or at least somehow force myself to grow up. The only way I can think of is to break myself off from all of the things that make me such a baby. If I go to college here I don't know if I can ever grow up. But if I'm away from them, from everything...if I'm more or less alone...maybe I have a shot at having my own life?

I dunno. Advice, anyone?

Sounds like most teenagers if you ask me.

In my opinion, if you went of to college and stayed in the dorms you'd have more independence, and if you studied abroad, you'd have even more, to a certain extent. But all that is temporary, especially studying abroad.

Judging independence is a bit difficult, being able to take care of yourself, contrasted with financial independence, which is a nightmare in itself.

Don't worry about independence and finding your own life and all that just yet.

Also, I studied abroad for a semester, if it's of consequence.

Hope this helps and good luck!

David

Who did? I didn't claim to be utterly unique. I'm sure a lot of teenagers feel like they can't grow up. I'm sure a lot of aspies feel that way too. I don't know how to talk to people, I don't even know how to begin to go about getting myself to another country. So I vent here, and it's pretty pointless for you to be telling me what you think I sound like without saying anything else. Unless pointlessness was the point. Sheesh.