My friend talks about suicide

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Tonight my best friend told me that yesterday she tried to cut her wrists. She didn't. But she is in a really really dark place right now and I don't know how to help her. I barely know how to deal with my own suicidal feeling. I never had to do this - to be the strong one, the one that should help her. I have no idea what to say or what to do. As I said she is my best friend but we are very different so I have no idea if anything I'm trying to tell her is getting through to her. She's got no one else to lean on but me and I feel like a complete loser now. We talked all evening and I try to say anything that could come to my mind. I'm trying not to show it but I'm really freaking out inside. It's just so much to handle but I know I have to because no one else will. I'm so scared for her and I feel completely helpless. Has anyone got any similar experience? Any advise?

You did really good there. I know that when I was going through my dark mental states that just having someone there helped because I knew someone cared enough to stay with me.

Being available to talk with her will help her.

As to help for you, here is a great place. When you are trying to help your friend, you also need to be able to ask for help because otherwise you could be overwhelmed by this. Counsillors need to be counseled for this reason. In some countries there are freephone numbers that you can call for a trained counsilor as well, so it might be a good idea to check and see if there is this service in your country (for both you and your friend).

The following websites eventually lead to phone numbers (I think, if not directly to them):
http://www.psycom.net/depression.central.suicide.html
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
http://www.samaritans.org/

Other useful information:
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/whattodo.htm
http://depression.about.com/cs/suicidep ... icidal.htm

Remember, you are not a loser. Your friend came to you, this is a sign of trust in you and a sign that she thinks well of you.

A thing to think about, what helps you out of your sucidal feelings? because if they help you they may help her a bit too. pm me if you think I can help.

Thank you for your response and the links. I found some of that information really useful. I am trying to talk her into seeking some professional help as well. I hope I'll be able to help her somehow. I was really freaking out yesterday. At least I'm a bit calmer now myself so hopefully I'll be able to be more helpful.

You're welcome, glad to help.

Remember to take care of yourself while you're helping her, it's something people always forget to do. I hope all goes well for you both. I'm glad you're feeling a bit calmer today.