Free to Good Home: Slightly Used Parent

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The parent is mature and in good physical condition. It is very loyal and likes to follow you from room to room talking non stop. Very friendly, will even talk through closed doors and raise its voice when you wear earplugs.

It is a little emotionally sensitive and reacts badly to phrases such as, "I don't want to talk right now" or "I'd rather not go out for lunch but thanks for inviting me". However, it rarely requires a response so with training it could probably learn to direct its verbal flood at a cushion or wall.

Will cover all mailing costs for the right home. You must be non violent and live very, very far away from me.

Edit: you may have this parent to cover the loss of your own (Emlion) but it is non returnable. Reviews of parent may be posted to youtube channel 'evaluatemyparent.youtube.com'

i can see my future as a mother looming, being posted in a stuffy box half across the world, yikes.
my son is only young, but i better watch my ways, i don't want him to join WP in a few years and try to re-home me....

we can be really bad and annoying, can't we?

Rule 1: If your child is wearing earplugs, it probably doesn't want to talk. It will like you more if you let it NOT talk.

Here's the problem, my mother is deeply insecure and seems to be a compulsive talker (really, psychological problem area here, she HAS to talk or it drives her more nuts than me). She has no understanding of the need not to talk and my father died so I'm kind of stuck.

I try to be really nice when I tell her that I don't want to talk...but she just gets mad and then suddenly we're having a conversation about how much I upset her. But it HURTS. My head HURTS when she talks at me non stop for ages. I'm afraid to leave my room in case she talks at me...

If you are an aspie parent, seriously, understand that your need to talk will probably not match your child's....

Slightly overbearing mother is much better than no mother at all.

Perhaps your Mother needs to be able to get out and socialise more Wuffles, then she'll probably talk about other stuff and be out of the house more so you can have quiet time without hurting her feelings. Although, it would be better phrased as concern over her being in the house a lot (if she is).


Emlion, I am sorry for your loss. I know that it's been a long time but I also know that it is very rare for the grief over a parent to disappear completely.

See, my mother does that too. "My x died...I can't stop missing my y..." and suddenly this is a conversation about HER needs. Actually, most of them are. You know what Emlion, lots of people lose parents. All of us do, eventually. Some parents are good and some are nightmares. I guess this topic is about you now...

sorry for giving my opinion and trying to help you see the bright side.

But you're not just giving 'your opinion'. You miss your mother and so that you imply that I should miss mine.

Well, mine is a mess and no, I don't think that any mother is better than none. My mother constantly puts her needs above mine. She puts her boyfriends needs above mine. And even when I do what she wants, she talks non stop.

So, no. I don't think that ANY mother is better than none. How about you look at what I'm actually saying. And my father died when I was young too, I know how to miss a parent. You hijacked my topic.

actually, i nothing her and i hate my father.
i've never been more glad someone was dead.

i know what you're saying.
you feel smothered.

but i think lots of people feel that way.
and it sucks, i get it.

you shouldn't attack people who try and help you.

anyway i'll stop replying now.
good luck.

you didn't try to help me.

you didn't listen to a word that i said...

my mother can't cope with my diagnosis. she ignores things that she can't cope with.

she let her boyfriend abuse me. that fell into the category of things that she ignored too. the abuse is over now. but i can't deal with her needs all the time.

i tried to make it humorous but i can't cope with her talking non stop and it really seems to be almost compulsive with her. worse yet, because she's so obviously needy and talkative, she gets a lot of sympathy. i'm just hiding away hoping to be left alone so i'm the bad guy. that's why what emlion said was just so wrong.

all i want is silence.