I am feeling so emotionally drained.

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I am a single mum with sole custody of my 2 children. My ex-husband loves his kids but just doesn't get it.

On Wednesday last week he said he would see them everyday over the easter long weekend. Ok yeah that will happen NOT, I thought. Well today i called him at 9am and asked if he was coming over like promised (I didn't mention yesterday and his lack of interest), he said he would be there soon. He then talks to my son on the phone and tell's him that he will come over soon and take them to see Nan "his mum". He never showed. He called at 1pm and appologized to me and said he would be around at 2. He eventually turned up at 3. He said he had been sleeping all day and was too tired to take them to the park or anything. So he just sat on the couch and then left. My son and daughter had been running and climbing up to look out the window whenever any car drove past, hoping it was daddy, all day. Then i would have to comfort them as they cried because he never showed up.

I am so emotionally drained and this happens every weekend. Apparently he will see them tomorrow, but i wont hold my breath.

I am going to go get some alcohol to drink and yeah.

That sucks and it's not uncommon, unfortunately. I'm sure I would have the same situation if my ex and I lived in the same town. He hasn't seen my son since he was 3 1/2 and hasn't spoken to him since he was 8 (he's 13 now). He's such a pathological liar I'm not sure this isn't a blessing in disguise. When I was a bartender I used to wait on old sad guys who wished they had a relationship with their kids after it was too late. I have a childhood friend who had the same situation when her kids were young. She said that was the only thing that made her really hate her ex. The errant fathers never see the pain in their kid's eyes.

Your story made me so angry. I'm glad you had the sense to leave him!

Bad enough he's screwing you around, but your poor kids.

I'd be inclined to tell him not to say or promise anything and if he turns up and you're home, great. If he doesn't turn up then at least you weren't putting your lives on hold for him, and if he turns up and you guys are out, well, that's what he gets for not keeping promises previously.