Parental Issues Rant

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I've developed this problem ever since I was a senior in HS where I no longer trust my parents (2 moms, this is actually relevant) and feel I can no longer confide in either of them (even my biomom). My mom brought this up yet again b/c of some issues that came up at home this weekend.
Long story short, I had some computer problems and took it to get fixed while still on campus. I was planning to pick it up this past monday. It ended up being fixed early and I had to ask my mom to take me to pick it up on saturday. Both my moms were very upset that I did not mention the computer issue before and realized I wasn't planning to tell them b/c I was avoiding yet another lecture. Also, I arranged to get it fixed and was going to pay for it myself, period. My mom felt I should have told her b/c she bought it for me (which I kind of get).
Than she brought up my not confiding in her and I tried to explain how I feel I can't trust them anymore b/c of how they tend to overreact to anything I say. As an example, when my mom mentioned my plans for after college (she pushes me to think ahead) I mentioned that b/c I know the college w/ the master's program I'd be interested is in a major city, I suggested that I might live in that city at some point b/c I can't drive. I would want a good friend for a roommate and would be careful about going out at night, etc. My mom yet again gave me another rape lecture (I get them any time I suggest moving to another town or refer to men ).
I didn't flat out mention the rape lectures b/c my mom is convinced that I am practically incapable of understanding the need to keep myself safe (both moms have bad histories with men, so they're paranoid but won't admit it). How can I confide in someone who is constantly rape lecturing me if I say anything about men or my future? Even saying I'd carry pepper spray and wear a rape guard doesn't help . These suggestions = "They'll still rape you and than murder you afterwards..." Also, I thought my siblings were going to have to stay in my dorm overnight recently.

wow that sucks having two moms i only have to deal with one. my mom nags me about eating every 5 minutes even though there is nothing wrong with the way i eat. and i mean like literally every 5 minutes from when i get up to when i go to bed. you might try avoiding them or telling them the way they talk annoys you. that worked with my mom a little for about a week then she forgot and i have to keep reminding her but at least i feel that she understands a little bit of why i am angry.