Having what I can only describe as a panic attack.

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I'm sorry if this sounds silly but I don't know where else to turn to right now, I'm filled with panic, anxiety, fear, dread and anything else you may wish to throw into the equation (after all, these are just words I am using to best describe the situation).

Allow me to explain, I am a guy in the UK just about to turn 25 (June 4th). I moved out of home to go to university 5 years ago and at the end of this month I have to move house again, only this time I will not be living with anyone. For the past 5 years (3 years at one place, 2 places a year each) I have been living with people I knew. When I came to where I am now I started smoking weed because everyone else in the house was smoking. This made it much easier to get to know the people I was living with. 3 years later and several failed attempts to complete the same year over and over at uni due to smoking weed I moved in with one of my housemates (the other two had finished uni and were moving out), at this time I became straight edge and began the process of getting my Asperger diagnosis. I then lived with a work colleague this past year leaving drugs behind me.

My current housemate has now decided to move in with his girlfriend and the people I was going to live with have decided that they don't want to live with me anymore. So I had to find somewhere to live fast, this ended up meaning I wouldn't be able to afford renting a one bedroom place working full time so I had to reduce my hours at work to allow for benefits to make my income meet my outgoings.

I am not literally freaking out about living on my own, relying on benefits to make ends meet, going back to work (I have been off sick for two months), signing a 12 month contract and then realising it's not what I want to do and having to deal with all the bills all by myself. It's seriously scary stuff and it fills me with fear!

I just want to go home but I can't because there is no longer any room there for me (when I lived at home my two youngest brothers were young enough to share a room, 5 years on they need there own rooms so I don't have a room anymore).

So for lack of a better phrase I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I'm having a complete panic attack about it and I have absolutely no idea what to do.

Could you sleep on a couch/in a makeshift room at your old home for the time being?

By the way I sympathize.I'm on the verge of a panic attack myself at the moment. The sound of other humans' voices and the clicking of my dog's nails on the floor are making it hard for me to breathe. That';s neither here nor there but I do understand panic.

I am sorry I feel your rising panic and dread. I have been in very similar situations and even wound up living in a homeless shelter for a short while due to having literally no where else to go at the time.

It is all so overwhelming and confusing. What helped me was to buy a small notebook and to itemize the problems I was facing one by one in a logical manner. Once they were written down, it got them out of my mind as they were going round and round driving me insane with worry and confusion. Once they are written down, I treated it as a logic puzzle and wrote down the steps to solve each of the problems that were inundating me. Mind you, I still had all the same problems, but this stopped them from obsessing my mind 24/7.

I then took "baby-steps" to solve one thing at a time. Each day I would commit to doing one or two of the things on my list. That stopped me from feeling overwhelmed by the numerous problems yet to be solved. These lists kept me from going into major panic attacks.

As for your living situation, would you be willing to look for a roommate to share a two-bedroom with you? That is much cheaper than paying for a 1 bedroom on your own. It's even cheaper to have three roommates in a 3-bedroom. That's because the rent for a 2-bedroom is not twice as much as the rent for a one-bedroom, and the rent for a 3-bedroom is NOT three times as much as for a one-bedroom.

I have lived with roommates all of my life to reduce living expenses and for the most part it's worked out great. Some roommates you may wind up not getting along with, but some may become good friends.

Getting a special notebook with each problem listed and steps to take to solve them really does reduce the panicked/confused feelings. If you get stuck or confused about a particular problem or step in solving a problem, just post back here and we will try to guide you thru them and offer encouragement.

Look Meredith I been having housing issues & had my diagnosis this year, now I have a team professionals helping & supporting me with that. Is there any that you can get the process to move quickly as if you get the diagnosis it will open up options of support and advice for you.