Peeved about a comment online

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This morning I was surfing online on my one of my favorite websites and something that someone posted hit a nerve that I don't like

I race remote control cars and the topic was about why in some parts of the pasttime is losing particpants becuase their are racers that are win at all cost people and run in the "fun" class just to get a win. They get all upset about when losing and they complain when they don't get a trophy. After that one user then showed his expierience that he has met many...here it is..."sex deprived racers" who have no life and are win at all cost people that care about themselves and don't help other racers or new racers. I am a quite the competitve racer, however, I never cheat and I never stoop to rear ending someone to win a race. I always help someone a fellow racer or new racer In need. I have also helped a few rookies win a national championship. I also don't complain when I don't get a trophy or when I lose.
I get offended when people claim their superiority over some people when they said that they have had sex and the guys have no life did not becuase they spend "too muc time in their pasttime" like working on cars and other stuff. Does fornicating with someone make you a better person than other people? Does it really makes your life better? I'm trying to keep this as PG as best as I can and not get moved to the adult fourm.

Just tell them you aren't that way so that way they know not all racers are like that. Educate them.

It's ok. I don't need to tell it on the website, it just attracts unnecessary attention, I just wanted to get something off my chest that I didn't like which is that some people think that they are better than some people is because they got it on and other people didn't. That's all.

Thought I'd bump this topic. Is anybody else here annoyed by people who say that people who have sex are better than people who don't? I'm still trying to keep this as PG as I can.

I think that comment wasn't really about questioning someones sex life. That example is used as an insult, often in male dominanted circles, that measure their 'manhood' by their sexual prowess. Whether you actually do or do not have sex isn't really the issue - the issue is people who spend alot of time on their hobby and take it way too seriously for those who do it for recreation and relaxation. It's about the intensity of those 'jock-types' who rub every win in other peoples faces and suck the fun out of it.

When people are seen as uptight it is always recommend that they 'get laid' - to relax. That's where it comes from.

If you aren't one of those uber intense types who steps all over everyone else in your bid to rule the RC world then I don't think that comment was related to you at all. Most people don't have a problem with a good sport.

To answer your question, yes. It is extremely annoying.

Thanks for the encouragement drealynn! I actually was one of those uber intense racers to an extent, a little while back ago. But I never really rubbed my victories in anybody's face. I did make a comment online about some racer who took me out for the win, but i wised up and never really said anything like that again (let alone post on the website anymore). But during that time, My dad and I would always help out one of the local racers who needed help with their car. During a few of the Tamiya Championship Series regional races, when it was held in Milwaukee every year, every time I won a class or two I would always give my RC car kits away to the one of the little kids who didn't have a car. There was one year that I gave my RC car kit that I won to a kid with autism who watched my race and was the son of a racer. After I won a race that I tried to win for 13 years called the Tamiya North American Finals, where I won a trip to Japan to compete in the Tamiya World Championship, i have pretty much calmed down about my racing and my dad and I are not as stressed out as we were back before we won the NA finals. I still have that intensity but not nearly as much as I did before, which I believe has made me a better racer, both as a driver and as a person.

As far as the sex thing goes to calm down and not be so serious, I really didn't want to have sex because if I did, I would get someone pregnant and I would end up taking care of a baby that I know I would not be able to deal with the stress of taking care of and would kill my dream of winning the north american finals. That was something way off limits to me and I didn't want to touch with a 50 foot poll, I stayed away from girls (even though there was a girl who knew since elementary school that turned out to be real pretty and i hovered over a bit) and I did not want one girl getting in my way of my dream for a thousandth of a second. I also think there are better ways of calming down and not getting all tense up about a race, like some kind of therapy or stress reduction machine to calm me down. Same thing goes to consuming some kind of illegal drug in order to take life less seriously and reduce stress. I know that would screw up my driving big time.

I don't race to claim my dominance over someone. (even thought I do like a good rivalry once in awhile) I race I because I want to be in something important, accomplish goals, and to make friends and to be proud of something. Not to mention Auto Racing is my favorite sport in the world and RC car racing is similar to something like that, which is why I like to do it so much. Not to mention...well... it's something I like to do!

Sir are the about the offending comments in question that feel peeved with?

Ok I'll assume that they are this this experiment, am going to change the wording of the comments, please tell me how feel about then now?

"Racers who choice to abstain from sex"..."Puts in time to concentrate on there past time"

The words we use can trigger off emotional responses, the same words can trigger different emotional responses for many people.
What we have here is that poster on your favourite website chosen words to trigger off negative emotions for you, plus imho a very poor choice of language.

Now if you wish to you can challenge the poster in a calm manner by pointing in your replay, that you feel that abstain from sex helps you to focus of your racing and that you feel that additional time you put into concentrating on your past time helps your improve your driving skills. Also it might be useful to do some research into the area of sex and sporting performance, to back up your discussion.

That Is what I really wanted to to use as a title on the haven and that was something I wanted to say from heart. But since it would have the word "sex" in it, I would be afraid that it would be sent to the adult issues fourm. So I was just being polite and trying to make the title appropriate for everyone however I should of used that title that you have suggested. I just wanted someone talk to about this issue that I've know for 8 years now, since this is "the haven".

As far as going on the website and talking to the person about what he said, I think that would start some controversy and would lead to a fight. I am way over what he said now and I don't think I need to stir the pot anymore. Maybe I should have talked to my parents about this instade of posting online to see what they would of thought. I will also look up sex and sporting performance as well.

I hate that as well.


I also hate the "I have more worse than you" or "I am more disabled than you" attitudes. People who act like someone else has no right to complain about their problems just because theirs "weren't/aren't bad as theirs" or act like someone else has no right to struggle just because "they aren't disabled enough." I am also peeved by how people on the spectrum act like parents of autistic kids have no right to struggle and be stressed out just because "their child has it worse" just because they have autism.

I'm gonna guess its RCtech forums? Ive seen that attitude before about the guys that go all out with full computer tuning/boost/etc. by some members who dont have the knowledge or funding to compete at that level. The comment was way out of line though, care to link me the thread?

BTW, im kb525 in rctech.

I can understand that but I suspect that the "go and get laid - it relaxes you" comment is by people who don't put any real thought into getting laid. If you want to do it right, and don't just want to treat the other person as an object I'd suspect it would that there would be a slight bit more to it than that.

Theres more than one way to relax, a lot of them have no connection with sex at all. concentrating on past times like RC driving might be relaxing for some people, who knows

The key is what you find & enjoy that relaxes you, screw what anyone tells you that should relaxes you, its your body at the end of the day & you knows what best for it