I cant handle kids

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So I thought Id try overcome my fear of kids by volunteering at a local small school. When I got into the classroom I became scard so I dismissed myself 15 minutes even though I was suppose to stay there for 4 hours. All I know is my moms gonna be hella pissed if she found out. Im not gonna tell her, Im just gonna tell her I didnt like it so Im not going back simple. Im the adult, if I cant mentally handle it, I need to leave simple as that because Im not good enough. This is volunteer work so its not like Im getting paid plus my lifes not on the line. Theres really no reason for me to stay. My mom cant make me go, Im 22, its not like Im a kid at this school. What they gonna do, call my mom, I dont think they have her number.

When I was a kid, I was bullied and isolated by the other kids so I'm pretty fearful when Im obligated to interact with them. I dont know what to do because I never knew how to interact with kids when I was a kid so naturally I was excluded.

The volunteer coordinator called me at the school. I didnt pick up, I dont know what to tell her. I could lie and say I had bad nausea.

Out of all the things I can handle by now. I could handle going away to college 2000 miles away from home, living in loud noisy dorms, volunteering in the ER, being in loud chaotic environments, etc. Dealing with kids is one of the top things I cant handle or perhaps its the fear of adults watching me interact(or not interact) with these kids and think they am I here and tell me to leave. I wanted to leave before they rejected me.

I feel the same, well i'm not good with kids anyway.

Is there anything that could get you to change your mind? Normally even terrible children act "better" in front of an adult. You will still have your bad seeds tho. Bullying some little kids might just be what you need--and you'd be in a position to do that (only partially joking).

Maybe the little kids are too loud and won't behave in a way you want them to. I've volunteered for my school helping out other kids, been a peer support leader and babysitted. Well, little kids can be a bit of a handful because they are all so energic! You can either face your fears or try to volunteer for something else. Maybe you could explain to the volunteer coordinator your situation and see what he/she could do for you. On the bright side, if you volunteer for this it looks good on your resume/ CV

Maybe you could handle a situation with fewer kids? Or one on one with a child? Not sure all the opportunities that exist for this in your situation, but worth a shot! Kids are the greatest people ever, if you ask me! I hope you can get over it in a way that is non-threat to you, low to no anxiety. Best wishes!

I understand what the OP is saying. I can't handle kids, either. So much so I know I don't want any and I made sure I won't have any. I can't understand why people want to have kids. They nosiy, messy, expensive, hard to train and take up all of your time. Why would anyone want to live there life like that is beyond me.

I wouldn't have even tried that. As soon as I see so much as three or more kids, and a sign that they are public schooled, I put distance between us. We both learned how mean they are long ago, right?

Does this give you nightmares?

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Don't worry, I can't handle them either! I have no desire to ever have any for that matter too