Family Problems

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OK so this is the first time I've posted here in awhile, not that I was even an avid user anyway, but I feel the need to vent this.

I feel so much anger whenever I'm around my mother or sister, especially my sister. She went to the most expensive state owned college in the country for four and half years and my parents paid for the majority of it, and was lucky enough to get a job after graduating a year ago but won't stop complaining about it.

I took a gap year after high school and applied for a bunch of jobs but got nothing so I ended up doing some babysitting and pet sitting to make money. I just finished my first year at a community college but my mom mentioned something about not being able to send me for a second year, and also that I would be forced out of the house sooner than my sister.

I realize that my parents' both lost a lot when the economy went bad, and is a major reason for my college situation. What I don't understand is why I would be the first one to get kicked out of the house. My sister has always acted as if the world is all about her and my parents say "That's just how she is" and "She can't help it". I can't understand how someone who basically treats her parents like stepping stones gets a free ride through college and then gets handed a job, yet will also complain about how her life sucks.

I know I'm not perfect either, as I don't show any kind of emotion towards my parents most of the time, which I'm sure frustrates them but Ive never gotten told that's just how I am, I've only been told that I'm very mean. This kind of crap makes me want to move out anyway, but I'm sure as sheltered and naive as I am that I wouldn't last long on my own before I came crawling back.

ARGGGGHHHHHH

OK, rant over. If you actually read all that, any advice on how to deal with this frustration is welcome and appreciated.

Where do you live? Your government doesn't provide free college and a place to live while you study?

No, there is no free college where I live. There are loans and payment plans that I could get, but I try to stay away from those unless I know I can eventually pay them off.

I feel like my family sees me as a scapegoat for things. My sister tries to blame me for anything that goes wrong in the house, even if I'm not involved at all, or even if she was the one who did something wrong. She always seems to convince my mother that somehow it is my fault when it clearly isn't.

Most of my family are alcoholics which=family problems.

That sounds like a though situation. Are they kicking you out of the house without any way you could provide yourself food & shelter? Even though it's legal if you are an adult, it seems cold blooded to me.

I would show your parents that you do care. If you can do anything like pick up the house, keep your room tidy, vacumn, dust, clean up, wash dishes, and general household chores. I don't care if you are so tired you will drop dead; clean up anything around you even if it isn't yours. This will reduce stress around the household. Don't be afraid to ask your parents directly if there is anything you can do for them.

You don't have to be naive. You can at least improve. If I were you, I would have a notebook or word document. Google how much an apartment is per month, see how much it costs for food for one person per month, and do things of that sort. If you can get to the library, I would read books & lots of them.

Read about computers, hardware, read about secular humanism. Read about something you know will give you a job. You don't have to go to school to educate yourself. You can continue bettering yourself no matter how dim your prospects are.

If you invest in yourself & building yourself up, your self worth and self confidence will increase; the frustration will not seem as overwhelming.