would any of you be friends or go out with someone like me

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would you?
friends 43%  43%  [ 16 ]
go out 5%  5%  [ 2 ]
no way 32%  32%  [ 12 ]
I wouldn't even want to be seen talking to you on a street 19%  19%  [ 7 ]
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25 Jun 2011, 10:00 pm

1. I'm dumb and a bit slow. I dropped out in the 9th when I was 16, and I was in special ed most of the time. I have nothing more than a fifth grade education so I have no prospects for a good future. I can barely do simple fractions., which is pathetic since I'm 24.

2. I'm extremely ugly and poor. Me, my grandma, and my sis live off SSI and foodstamps

3. I take no more than probably a dozen baths a year, in fact I haven't bathe since march 1st this year. I also have fungi growing on my skin

4. I play video games and watch anime all the time. Most people (idiots) consider that negative.

5. I have no friends, except for people I talk to online, but since I"m so bad at conversation I have no real connection with them.

Be honest. Most people I come in to contact with don't want to be around me for an extended period of time because of me being slow/annoying and or dumb. It's been that way my whole life.

I've missed out on a lot of things like prom, having a gf, road trips, friends, going snow boarding etc. I feel like I was cheated out enjoying things like that because of the way I look and act. it isn't fair.

I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life in poverty. There is no hope for me.



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25 Jun 2011, 11:01 pm

There's always a bright side. Find people who like anime and strike up a conversation. You should try to bathe just a bit more because it's better for your health and all that.



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25 Jun 2011, 11:45 pm

I really love videogames and anime.

I would watch anime with you (depending on which ones) or play videogames.

But I may not like it if you smelled since I am super sensitive to smells around me.

I probably would not date you. I am already married. And I need someone who can kinda take care of me since I am a bit "weak" myself.



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25 Jun 2011, 11:52 pm

The biggest issue I would have with you would be that I am sensitive to smell.
I tend to think, if you are mobile, and have a bath or water facilities, there is rarely an excuse for not keeping clean.



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26 Jun 2011, 12:33 am

I don't think you people are telling the truth.

None of you would hang out or talk to me. You'd be made fun of by your friends or people you hang with if they saw you talking to me. You'd have no patients dealing with me and you'd talk about me behind my back.

I know how people work.

Just like the all-white church I went to when I in my teens. (i'm black) The adults from the church would donate things like clothes, food, appliances, etc to us because we were so poor. I wanted to hang out with the kids/teens from church when I got a certain age because I thought they would be nice to me.

It was the same like everywhere else, they made fun of me and my sis for being ugly, slow, poor. They would also tease us about the donation that their family may have given us.



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26 Jun 2011, 12:34 am

I wouldn't mind having you as a friend. I'm a guy, so a romantic relationship isn't really in the cards, though.


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26 Jun 2011, 2:02 am

You said be honest, so here goes it: I would be friends with you, but the lack of personal hygiene concerns me. I am friends with several people who are "slow" or mentally challenged or whatever you want to call it. (I can't figure out how to say the other thing I wanted to say without it sounding rude or condescending even though it totally isn't so I'll just not say it)



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26 Jun 2011, 10:54 am

I haven't been outside since early march when I went to my uncles house in another city. I have no friends to hang with, talk, or to go out to places live the movies, concerts, parties, etc.

As much as I want to enjoy those things I know I will never get to, because people don't want to have anything to do with me.

The so called "friends" I hung out with in my mid to late teens were the worst. They only became friends with me because I have a few game systems. They made fun of my house, the way I dressed, how my face looked, and they way I acted. It was even if a nice looking girl or someone they barely knew came around as they would try to embarrass me. The idiots viewed me a slow/ret*d that was a nuisance that they had to put up with if they wanted to use my things.



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26 Jun 2011, 4:53 pm

Hi MR20!

You don't seem slow in the least. You seem smart and sensitive.

It seems like life has dealt you a bad deck of cards so far.

You seem like you'd be a great friend.

If you want to talk about ways to make your situation better, you can always PM me or just write more in this thread!



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26 Jun 2011, 4:53 pm

Double post, sorry!

Anyway I seem to remember from an earlier thread that your living environment makes it hard for you to live the way you want to live. On top of that anyone with depression has trouble with basic things. I know I do when I'm depressed. Have you been able to talk to a doctor about this?



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26 Jun 2011, 7:51 pm

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I play video games and watch anime all the time. Most people (idiots) consider that negative.


Actually, the most off putting thing in your post is the word 'idiots' in brackets to describe people who dislike your interests.



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26 Jun 2011, 8:11 pm

It depends. I might try to help you clean up and yell at your grandmother for letting the house become such a disaster. At that point I don't know if you'd want me around. I would basically attempt to rehabilitate you and maybe help you get a GED and a job.



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26 Jun 2011, 9:33 pm

MR20 wrote:
I don't think you people are telling the truth.

None of you would hang out or talk to me. You'd be made fun of by your friends or people you hang with if they saw you talking to me. You'd have no patients dealing with me and you'd talk about me behind my back.

I know how people work.


I know others who are "slow". Being slow intellectually doesn't bother me. What bothers me is if someone is constantly pessimistic and depressed, because my energy tends to get drained by sad facial expressions.

If you look at the cans instead of can'ts, we might be able to become friends. For I too really enjoy video games and anime.



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27 Jun 2011, 1:16 am

Lene wrote:
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I play video games and watch anime all the time. Most people (idiots) consider that negative.


Actually, the most off putting thing in your post is the word 'idiots' in brackets to describe people who dislike your interests.


The people I'm talking about are idiots. They shun me and view me as a loser because I spend most of my time and money on video games and anime. I don't spend my money on clothes and go out looking for women to bang, which is sinful.

I shouldn't have to dress up or act a certain way to impress people. Like I said in other threads, I did that in my teens and it got me nowhere.



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27 Jun 2011, 1:24 am

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Double post, sorry!

Anyway I seem to remember from an earlier thread that your living environment makes it hard for you to live the way you want to live. On top of that anyone with depression has trouble with basic things. I know I do when I'm depressed. Have you been able to talk to a doctor about this?


Doctors don't help. I went to a bunch of them in my teens. They never listen to me when I talked about my problems, and just dismissed it as ret*d gibberish. They just put on me different kinds of medicine for stuff I don't have and it probably made my condition worse. It's was the same at the mental hospitals that I were growing up. The best thing a doctor has done for me mentally related was diagnose me with AS.

I haven't been to a doctor in a few years and I haven't been on medicine in a while.



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27 Jun 2011, 3:39 pm

SyphonFilter wrote:
MR20 wrote:
I don't think you people are telling the truth.

None of you would hang out or talk to me. You'd be made fun of by your friends or people you hang with if they saw you talking to me. You'd have no patients dealing with me and you'd talk about me behind my back.

I know how people work.


I know others who are "slow". Being slow intellectually doesn't bother me. What bothers me is if someone is constantly pessimistic and depressed, because my energy tends to get drained by sad facial expressions.

If you look at the cans instead of can'ts, we might be able to become friends. For I too really enjoy video games and anime.


We might be cool for a few weeks or months. Sooner or later after you get to know me, you will find me very annoying and uninteresting to talk to. You'll probably try to avoid me and/or put me on ignore.

It never fails.