Feeling sad and glum and general meh-ness

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I return with another downer thread. Feel free to skip it. Basically I do not feel a purpose in life, at all. I don't work (never have done) or go to college any more (I'm not going back due to nightmares and depression from sexual abuse and bullying I experienced there), I haven't made any friends in many, many years (my only ones are from those many years ago I made them, before I went crazy and forgot how to make new ones).

I'm making a huge comic in hopes that it will make me money, but it probably wont since it's offensive, too complex and a lot of celebrities would sue me for it, but nothing else that is meaningful, hobby-wise. I don't go out at all or do any exercise, so I'm getting fat and probably slowly forming, fatal blood-clots from being glued to this chair all day. I stay in my room all day because it's safer and way better than the dangerous outside world, but it drives me insane being in here at the same time.

My mum moans at me for going on WP because she wants me to go on http://piratesarecoolerthanninjas.vpweb.co.uk/Home.html, a group for Asperger's / autistic people in my area, which is fair enough, I'm just absolutely terrified of meeting people since I haven't really met any humans in many months. I'm a coward and can't arrange anything myself, so my mum is doing it for me. I don't want her to run my life, but since I wont myself, no one else will.

I want to go to America later in my life (well actually right now, I just don't have any money or confidence) but my parents said they would come too. I don't want them to come. All my dad does is bring me down and tell me how much I'll hate America, and he says he only wants to come so he can prove himself right and laugh at me. Who the hell wants that? I just want to get away from my family and have my own life. I just really don't know how to do that right now.

Also apparently I can't until I'm 25 and I get housing benefits or something, but even now I've been at home for long enough to bare it anymore.

Also are there any other AS forums so I can make a fresh start? I haven't made a good impression on here at all by being so pessimistic and anti-social and random.

Just get out of the house and go ride a bike or something. Maybe go for a walk. I know, it's cliche, but it works. I was feeling tired and lethargic until I went to Kung Fu class. I felt so much better afterwards.

And if you think you've made a bad impression here, you're wrong. There are certain types of people I dislike, but you are not one of them.

you havent made a bad impression(:

let your mum arrange the group thing and make yourself go to it, no matter how scary it seems at first. try not to fall into too much of a rut

i don't understand the 25 & benefits thing:/

"Self-control is the chief element in self-respect and self-respect is the chief element in courage." -Thucydides

Courage is a journey. It is not something we are born with. It is something we acquire over time. We build it by accomplishing small successes, and building on them.

If you can muster up the self control to get up out of that chair for 15 minutes and get some excercise, you will feel better physically and mentally. If you continue to do this, you will gain self respect and eventually the courage to go farther, faster and push harder in ALL aspects of life.

Self control can be as small as eating a bowl of cereal instead of a doughnut. Start small. If you over do it and fail, frustration can set in and lead to self destructive, self indulgence. Self indulgence is a courage killing trap to stay out of.

When you do fail and succumb to self indulgence, don't obsess about it. We are all human and we all fall down. Pick yourself up and try again until you succeed. You can't lose unless you quit. The most difficult challenges are the most rewarding when you beat them.

I prefer the solitude found by distance running. I find it to be a great meditation and fine excercise. Both can help you find balance.

I promise you, this works. It has saved my life on more than one occasion. It can help you too.

Regards.

Are there any online classes there? Also, sexual abuse at college? I'd sue them for that if it was a teacher or something and even if it wasn't, they have an obligation to make sure their campus is safe.

Thanks very much guys I'll probably go for a walk in a bit. It wont have much of a point, but at least I'll go outside for a bit.

Hey

Firstly, you've not made any sort of a bad impression on me. I'm not aware of anyone saying oooh that Simonononono.... what a bad impression he's made. I think your reputation here is just fine.

Secondly, Housing Benefit - you can get this if you are under 25, it's just a bit lower than if you are over that. So, basically, most people under 25 are expected to be living in shared accomodation, or a wee bedsit. You might be able to get more if you get DLA, or Income Support due to a disability, which you may be eligible for. You can find out how much you can get here. Choose the shared accomodation rate. https://lha-direct.voa.gov.uk/search.aspx

Thirdly. Try something new. Even if it's just one thing, that gets you out of the house. One thing can make a big difference to your self esteem and confidence. I understand completely where you are. I've been a hermit for several years now. But trying one thing you enjoy, or one thing that might be a bit hard but might bring you a benefit, it's good for you. Branch out just a little and see where it takes you.


Good luck.