Feeling very upset and neglected

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I suffer from an anxiety disorder, and often get worried that I have a terrible disease. That happened again today, but everyone in the house just got angry with me, and so I was left hiding out in my room, as I didn't want to face anyone who might be annoyed with me, and feeling progressively worse as a result of both feeling neglected, and suffering from a panic attack from the anxiety.

Also, I tend to be the odd-one-out in my family, and feel like I have no one to talk to, and no one to understand me. I can't seem to pull off small talk, nor do I find it at all enjoyable, and instead mainly want to talk about my specialist subjects, which no one else in the house enjoys. Because of this, again I don't have anyone in the house to talk with about things I like, and since my anxiety has made me agoraphobic recently, I can't find others with similar interests, and besides, I wouldn't know where to begin with meeting new people.

I just want to be able to talk to my family, and to fit in with them. I don't care about fitting in with society, but with my family it's different, because they are the most important people to me. I've tried talking to them about it, but they just don't seem to understand. Has anyone else here felt like this, and can anyone please help me?

I felt like this before I got diagnosed. My family could not tolerate my Obessive compulsive disorders, and I ended up having to hide from them because Dad yelled at me all the time, and my sister was creul to me, imitating what I did even though she knew it just triggered me to do it 10 times worse, making me want to slit my throat or just crawl off and die.

How old are you, just wondering? Are you diagnosed? You should try and find some hobby groups online.. It's a far cry from real life but it's a start

I am sorry you are hurting so much.Are you on any medication for the anxiety?I know family can be frustrated when they hear the same things over and over but dont know how to help...is there any kind of telephone or internet support/chat you can go to,who may understand your issues.As far as making your family interested in your topics of interest...nothing you can do there...people dont pick their interests...and nobody can pretend to be interested for to long(just like you cant pretend to be interested in small talk).

I do too, and I'm sorry to hear that!

I hope things improve with you soon!

I suffered from hypochondria and severe panic attacks in my twenties. I overcame it in one day by surrendering to my fear because I was exhausted from being afraid all the time. The moment I surrendered by letting go and relaxing that psychological decision to surrender stopped the physiological process that results in anxiety. I had to get really desperate and exhausted before I got to the point that I was able to let go, surrender, and relax. Once I figured out the psychological trick of how to deal with the physiological fear or flight loop, I don't think I ever had a panic attack again.

I still occasionally get a bout of hypochondria. But nowhere near what it was when I had no clue as to how to deal with my anxiety.

I hope you find peace of mind from your anxiety too.

First of all, very sorry to hear about your problems, Lupine. I hope they work out for you, but I can't think of any good tips for you other than what's already covered by the others. :/

anandamide, the process of change after you took the step and got cured, so to speak, how long did it take? Or did every chip simply fall into place at once? I mean mostly the psychological problems you had. I'm having issues about accepting assaults from people in general and it seems I have just gotten to the point where I either succumb to madness or learn to accept it, the turnstile you were on, it seems, so I feel your experience could be of some help, if you will.

People always want to know more about what happened the day I stopped having anxiety attacks. I wish I could spread the word and somehow show people who have anxiety attacks what I felt that day that I dealt with my anxiety. I should add that my attacks began because I was a "victim" of violent crime, I was attacked by a psycho as I walked down the road one day. And I didn't get the 'debriefing" that many police services offer now to "victims" of crime. Nowadays such treatment is recognized as medically necessary, and what happened of course was that I gradually deteriorated over time into an anxious mess. I found out much later that this person who attacked me was a serial murder. One of the more horrific things that has ever happened to me.

Anxiety attacks run in my family. Mine showed up about a year after the attack, and this is common to PTSD. The day that I "cured" myself of the anxiety attacks I was sitting on a bus. And I was so sick and tired of being afraid. So I finally thought to myself, well if I am going to go insane, or die, then so be it. I was THAT tired of it all. I just gave up fighting the anxiety. I let it be. I let the anxiety be without fighting it. I had just gotten to the point where I didn't care anymore if I was afraid or not because I was so tired of fighting the fear. And in that moment I let go, surrendered and relaxed.

And it really did come as a surprise to me that that process of letting go and not caring any more about the fear stopped the fight or flight mechanism right away. It is the fight or flight state that makes our hearts beat fast, adrenalin pump, hormones surge, and causes our minds to make up imagined fears to explain such free floating anxiety and all the other weird symptoms.

I should also add that I only learned the words to describe my process long after I had "cured" myself. No doctor ever said to me, "You are having anxiety attacks" or "You must learn to relax."
I think doctors and even therapists were pretty clueless about anxiety twenty years ago. I actually learned all these words such as "fight or flight mechanism" and "free floating anxiety" and "PTSD" many years later, after I had overcome the anxiety. But I do know that I was suffering from an acute anxiety disorder. I do remember at that time the doctor called it an "acute stress reaction" or "anxiety disorder" but he never gave me the faintest clue how to deal with it.