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I think I'm obsessed with myself.
I was brought up on TV. In my life, I always thought of myself as the main character, and as such, everything should go my way, when I have a problem, everyone should pity me. If they didn't, they are mean and evil, and their thoughts should not matter, nor should their well beings. If they did not care about me, I should not care about them. And last but not least, "MY PROBLEMS SHOULD BE THE CENTER OF EVERYONE'S LIVES, AND EVERYONE ELSES PROBLEMS ARE PETTY COMPARED TO MINE.
I AM NEVER WRONG, ANYTHING I DO CAN BE AND SHOULD BE JUSTIFIED. MY FEELINGS SHOULD ALWAYS COME FIRST."
These were my sub-conscious thoughts.
I want to change, I am hurting people I don't realize I'm hurting. And cyber-stalking people I have crushes on, and now that I realize what I was doing, I feel very creepy.

It's Asperger's, dude, and it sucks...

I go through the same s**t you're going through, everyday, all the time...

Sometimes I get so depressed, I want to end my life..

but I know, if I just maybe, work on including others into
my universe, maybe for just a moment, I can make my universe
theirs too if you know what I mean.

Also, plain fact is, some people don't give a s**t bout your needs
because apparently they are arrogant and selfish too..

I've learned this the hard way when I tried getting my friend's attention and they've nearly all abandoned me.

Medications can help, antidepressants anyway can lessen autistic symptoms such as social anxiety, problems with eye contact, repetitive ritualistic behaviors, and maybe therapy can help you with connecting with others emotionally

I've all but given up actually believing other people deserve my attention and compassion...when have they ever given me a second thought?

Omg I am so glad someone started this thread! I thought it was only me!

I get that feeling, well I'll say all the time, but that's an understatement, it's how I live.

But at the same time, the logical side of me understands that there are those, such as in physically or sexually abusive situations or in Africa and other malnourished parts of the worlds, are so much worse off. Yet I just don't care.

It's incredibly frustrating, but as above poster stated, it's Aspergers(well we all have different experiences with it, not saying everyone gets this) and we just work through it.

Possibly any part of our brain's code could be over-written with enough work I guess, but I(and probably many others) can't be bothered and have much more important things on our mind.

P.S. I've just sorta realised, looking at the general behaviour of most people I know(though I could be mistaken) but it seems like this behaviour isn't exclusive to Aspies...

Thanks for bringing this up. This is big in our house.

Has anyone out there got ideas on how a parent can be helpful? My teen son has the same problem. And I am trying to help him.

Whenever we make family decisions together I insist he consider my needs and desires as well as his own. But others disappear from his life when he can't see their point of view.

Last weekend he crashed a neighbor's birthday party. So I'm having him write a, "Thank you for including me. . ." card with a small gift. This is so tough for him to see. After several tries he could not see that the point of the card was to acknowledge the kindness of the family in including him without an invitation to a planned party. All he could see is he had fun, got to play with kids and was fed dinner and cake. I finally had to dictate the text to him. He didn't get that when we passed the family on the street the next day at 10 feet away they stared right through us.

What is a mom to do?