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In spite of managing to push people away over meltdowns, awkwardness,ect I still want to belong and be included. One of my pet issues is being ignored or skipped over. I can't say I've killed any threads here since joining because I guess not enough time has passed to know. Does anyone else feel like when the reply to something (here, or anywhere) they are invisible or write stupid s**t that nobody wants to talk about? This happens to me all the freaking time and it's frustrating. I kind of gave up on message boards for the most part until finding this one. Back to old patterns..

I've felt that and still feel it sometimes. You have to post a lot more for people to notice your posts it seems.

Also this happens at work too. I emailed the director about a wonky sounding fridge that was bothering me two days ago. No reply, nothing. It burned me up inside. I think I made a comment to my boss about it that wasn't taken well. I said something like well I guess ______ isn't replying to my emails anymore, in a matter-of-factly tone. Boss seemed irritated. I don't read or look at his face or body it's just something I sense.

anyway, back to being ignored again. hopefully not permanently here.

It's worse with my family.. older siblings seem to have written me off. I sometime send short emails but rarely get emails back.

I know what you mean... i get ignored all the time especially from girls... my friends tell me that i dont show any enthusiasm or confidence when i talk to people but to me i feel like im just throwing myself out there and its kinda awkward... i dont have a phone and i dont use my facebook so i can only really be spoken to in person... and nobody does really...

Actually this week ive gotten more attention then ever because i brought a car... but its the car that is getting the attention i guess ... oh well i give it all my attention to

anyway... the members here are good people and will read and share interest in what you have to say...

In the case of WP, like any other forum, that's sad but true. A lot of the more interesting people, I wager, have few posts.

I kill threads all the time. I figure what I said was so amazing no one can add anything to it.

The thing is, everything is perception based. You can't read minds so you don't know how many people relate to what you're saying and just don't post, or how many people think you're annoying and don't tell you. Either way, if you focus on what you are learning and what you are gaining, and not how good you are contributing, then you will enjoy it more and the more you post the more you continue practicing. The practice is good.

Yes, it happens to me way too often, both in real life, and forums like these. I haven't been here that much, but I'm talking about other places where I have been a lot more active. I'll never know the secret. Dx

Actually, I must admit I find it kind of funny that other people feel the exact same as I do in the sense that once we post the thread either dies or the post gets over looked and because of the amount of people (even if it's small) that feel that way I think it may be more of a case that we only notice when a thread dies (or the post ignored) that our post was the last that we overlook the huge amount of threads (or other users' posts) that are simply dead when other people reply. I know I said that really badly and it probably doesn't make much sensse how I worded it.

It can sometimes feel that what I write here doesn't get read, or in some other way doesn't matter.

Thing is, that's a reflex.

It's useful to realize that yeah, people have stuff they're doing. I have stuff I'm doing. There are only 24 hours in a day, and I myself am asleep for 8 of those. So it may be interesting if one or two people respond to posts of mine here but I'm in no way entitled to anyone's attention.

Invisible sometimes I am convinced I am invisible.

I also have an energy which I think scares people a little the only thing they can do sometimes is to ignore me.

What has helped is understanding that other folks are often as socially inept as me.

Yeah, I get ignored, interrupted and talked over in real life and on-line, even by my friends that I talk to the most (or used to talk to all the time). It's very frustrating! I feel like nothing I say matters to anyone, so why the hell should I bother speaking up at all?

I have chronic nightmares about being ignored by friends and family. Sometimes I am unable to speak.
It always makes me cry when I wake up.

My family doesn't really understand me - though my mother's side is making an effort and many of them have done reading on autism since my diagnosis. My father's side scoffs at my personality and behaviors, if they acknowledge me at all. I have a hard time making friends, and the few I have, can't always be blamed for being a bit distant. It takes alot of patience to get to know me and even more to accept me for what and who I am.

I just do whatever my body does.

I have to say that this is exactly how I am feeling now.

I've never felt lonely before. Alone, yes...but never lonely. Now I feel both. I feel like I don't fit in anywhere in real life, and now I don't belong online either.

I used to get upset about this, but I detached myself and stopped caring and no longer spend enough time on any board, to notice that I am unnoticed, if I am indeed unnoticed.
I know I was once quite recognisable and known here, but with time, you are forgotten, and I suppose that is the basis of why I believe no-one can truly care about anyone else on the net. Because you can disappear from somewhere after years, and it isn't noticed.