Does anyone here ever feel like..

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they can't talk about their problems with anyone out of fear of being locked up in a nut house?

There's so much I want to say and no-one to say it to.

Yes. Furthermore I worry that my children will be taken away (which is ridiculous, I know, I'm a great parent who has no bad thoughts toward her children, I just feel vulnerable as a single mom).

Yes, I have felt like this for about a year now. The last (and only) time I tried to seriously talk to someone about my problems I was told to "pick myself up by the bootstraps" and then the person implied I might end up shooting people at a mall.

Since then, I've kept my problems to myself. I can relate to wanting to say a lot but not having anyone to say it to, and it gets very lonely at times, but then again I don't really like being compared to murderers.

Trouble is, when we try to explain our problem, a lot gets lost in translation, especially the emotions that come with the problem. So what the person ends up hearing either sounds trifling ("my mom's show comes on the same time mine does and she won't let me watch mine ever") or scary ("The next time a girl turns me down for a date I'm gonna set her on fire"). You'd think a friend, family member or professional counselor would actually try to fill in the blanks to get at what's really bothering us, but all too often they just take whatever we said at face value, leaving us sputtering about how that wasn't what we meant. So, it's easier not to say anything.

All the time, especially with previous experience of talking to people. Everything is either lost in translation, misunderstood or used against you.

Yes this is one reason I am afraid to actually pursue a psychological assesment/diagnoses though It has gotten to the point where i really need to do that.

what interests me, is only a "distant glimmer" in the horizons of the consciousnesses i live in the vicinity of.
i know what i know is valuable to me, but to other people who are full of themselves, it may seem feeble.

i do not talk about what i am unhappy about, because i am not unhappy about much, and the things i am not pleased with are just trivial anyway.

even if i was perplexed and frightened, i would always sort things out on my own because i trust no one (except tammy)

Yes, sometimes. I used to worry about that often.....especially once I noticed that people weren't understanding what I said about my problems.

These days I worry more that I will have inappropriate help forced upon me if I admit my problems....that I'll suddenly find myself having control over my life taken away from me because people will think I'm totally incapable of coping with anything.

Yes.

Haha, yes, there are stuff, and sometimes, it feels like that someone must know! Anyway, not all of the things I think would make people think I should be in a place for crazy people, but I'm in worry of being ridiculed for. But yes, there are currently two things that I can think of straightway right now.

Not sure. I've had more than enough thoughts that I'd never be able to explain without people looking at me like I was crazy -is that the same thing though?

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Same here. That's why I don't trust shrinks.

I know I can't talk about 95% of what I'm thinking to normals around here,... but can't you talk to other people like the ones you find here ??
I just found out about ASD 7 months ago, and found 2 online friends since. Hell, I can tell them anything, really ANYTHING that I EVER thought of and they won't think it's foolish. Most of the time they even had the same thoughts at some point.

We all have our weird thoughts, NT or not.
Well for a start. I used to have my bedroomwalls filled with Spice Girls posters. I never undressed in my room because they were looking at me. Oh well. I'm over that now (about time at age 31 )

I can only talk to 2 people about my weird, sometimes disturbing thoughts. They are not Aspies but they have/had similar issues with things like that: my fiance and a close female friend. They also know how to keep a secret. The rest of those thoughts go into a private journal I recently started.

Me too! I love The Haven for this, because if I were to tell anyone in RL, I'd get the look: I have been committed once as a young teen. Funny though, they couldn't figure out what was wrong with me.

Yes, but I think it's better this way. People either don't understand, or just think they do. Either way, talking things out never makes me feel better, I end up feeling judged and vulnerable.