How can I just accept the fact that I'm an Aspie?

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I have Asperger's and hate it! I just want to commit suicide because of it. My life is just so terrible. I missed out on all the good things in life. I'm 24 and never accomplished anything, except getting my driver's license, in my teens. I'm really scared that I'll never have a job or be able to know the joys of motherhood. How can I just accept the fact that I have to live with this? How can I accept that I'm 24 and I'm really, really behind in my life?

I have a lot of days (most of them lately) where I feel the same way. I end up in this pit of despair, just free falling though life. I've lost probably a decade of my life in depression getting nowhere. In fact, falling behind from standing still. Dont' let it get you down or the fear paralyze you that much. Sometimes it helps me to think that I'll only end up getting less accomplished if I let that happen. Sorry if that's not much help. I feel the same way right now

Hi Chrissy, 24 is very young and you still have your whole amazing life ahead of you. I'm 32 and I have often felt the same way as you. I consider myself fortunate because even long before I was diagnosed with AS I befriended other people who had the same "crazy" kind of mind as me - we just kind of gravitated towards each other (I'm pretty sure they have AS too) and these people were innately stubbornly proud of their difference, even though they had few friends and didn't "succeed" in life in the conventional way. My experience has been that the "happy" although "unsuccessful in conventional life" aspies tend to be those who independently cultivate and indulge their creative side and their intellects, find like-minded and genuinely non-judgmental (not pretend-non-judmental) people to inspire them; they tend to be a bit "bohemian" in lifestyle. I have always seen incredible beauty and honesty in such people. I don't know if this is your ideal at all but I just wanted to show that there are lots of happy, beautiful, non-neurotypical people out there. I think the important thing is to not be hard on yourself. The very first step is to find your inner peace and calm, otherwise anxiety or depression may block your path towards finding your passion, and that really is the main thing. It's very, very important not to measure yourself against other people - I can't stress this enough.