I want a Family

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hello.

I am wrting here because i want a family. i use to live in fostercare and i am finding it harder and harder to whatch TV or films because there is constant references to families.

I feel bad because i want somone who can hug me and make me feel safe.. but now i am to old for the foster care system to do this. i am currently at a group center, but i want a family.

i do not sleep at night and i feel scared alot. Sonmetime i curl up with lionn on my bed and put his tail over my back so it feels like he is cuddling me in the way i like most. I normally hate being touched by anyone but i want to feel safe.

I would be greteful even for somone who would sit by my side. and be there. and accept me for who i am. somone who would be happy to sit with me when i feel lonley, and hug me when i feel scared,

Most people will think i am stupid. and most people think i am wierd. I do not want to be independednt. i tried to be independent and i failed. i do not want to be alone forever, yet i do not want a gilrfrined.

i hope this makes sense.

^licks^

jammie & lion

You can have mine.


What happened to your real family?

I don't want to start a family until I finish school.

Tim

I used to listen to Talk Radio a lot at night when I was scared.

Your story is very sad!

I hope things improve with you soon!

Just make friends with someone who has a lot of siblings. The constant bickering and pettiness will cure you of wanting a family.

I'd convince my Parents to adopt you, but I'm all the way in Canada and my family is Working Class, so my Parent's don't have the money. It's too bad. They will be lonely after I move out, and they don't want to deal with "Empty Nest Syndrome".

Jammie, you have a family. Us. Am I right or what? *gives jammie a friendly hug*

I am not sure what you can do friend,
the reality of it is the older you get the less odds of you getting adopted by anyone other then the state its self unless you go independent and have a go on life on your own, the only (most likely) way you will have a family once your past 16 is basically to become independent and find your self a girl and build your self a nest egg and start your own family and life,
most people do not want to adopt someone thats becoming an adult in body,
and most people just can not afford the time and resources for one.
I am sorry, sometimes life really sucks.
its best you try and put your mind and heart and energy into bettering your self and becoming independent enough to start your own life and nest egg in life so that someday someone will take notice and want to share their life and love with you together.
if you remain with the state for the rest of your life you will never gain the type of family your wanting and/or needing.

if your younger then 16, keep trying, perhaps life and fate will give you a much needed brake.
I know how you feel in a since that at one time in my life (err, most of my life) I hated seeing couples and their life because I never had the experience, no hugs, no kisses, no holding of hands, eventually I did, but I had to work hard for it and still do, but that was dealing with relationships and matters of love\sex\mating, etc, not parental,
I had a family (mother/father/2 older brothers and a younger sister) so I can not actually make an honest comparison to the emptiness you must feel inside. I am sorry, I really do wish I could help.

if your permanently disabled, yet able to function in society by your self and for the most part independently and living in the USA, then the state should provide you with enough of an income to help support you enough for you to live an independent life, and they will help you find a home and get started, there in you may be able to find someone like your self to share the rent and responsibility's with together that may in time work out to become a kind of a family together with you, and if that person does not work out then think of it as a kind of practice run for the next person you would like to try with, you must learn to socialize to build relationships, and sometimes that takes allot of work and practice.

I hope this helps. I grew up with an abusive mother and a father that was at work all the time, when he was home my parents fought like animals. There was no sense of family and like you, I wanted one desperatley. I too wanted to feel safe, but safety was a feeling no one in my house was aquainted with. I made myself a promise that someday I would have a family where I could feel safe. So I made my own. I married and stayed home with my kids, read them books at night, tucked them in and snuggled with them, and loved them with all that I had. I formed for myself the safe loving home I had always dreamed of. In the safety and well being of my children I found and nurtured my own inner child. Good luck to you and may God strengthen and guide you through the journey ahead.

I don't think you're being stupid. I have to be alone too.

here is something you can do,
the agency that you work with and finds homes for those they work with,
make a nice 1 or 2 page letter telling why you want a home and family,
post it where the people that come looking can see it, or ask those that work with you to present it to couples looking for a child,
take the initiative, as if you was job hunting, show little to non negative aspects
(as in I will refrain from causing problems) and adding mostly the positive
things about your self.

talk about what you would like to do with a family,
swimming, fishing, hugs, smiles, etc, etc.
that your a good child, someone they would like to spend time with and watch grow
and be proud of.

just sitting back waiting sometimes is not enough,
its about like dating, you can not find a mate just by sitting at home wishing for one,
you have to get active.

apsergian-mutent:

I am not working with an organisation that find people place to live, i am trapped at a pleace they put me because they had nothing they could put me because i didnt ave a statment.

i am too tired to explain, i will explain when i have had some lion time.

I HAVE BEEN TAKIING THE ICIATIVE!! !! !! !! !!

^licks^

jammie & lion