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I've tried everything in my power to make things go right for me, nothing has changed.

This wasn't the life I wanted, its all a big mess. I'm going to graduate soon, my degree doesn't get any jobs, I did it because it was something I wanted to do my whole life. I can't get of the situation I'm in because I have no money and no friends to look to for support. It's times like these I wish I had friends, I've told a couple of people at the place where I study. It backfired on me and now I'm treated like an outcast. I feel so trapped right as if someone dropped me in the middle of nowhere to die.

I've tried to make peace with my family, my brother doesn't realise he was the one that kicked me out in the first place and they just want to ignore me like they did before. I don't want to go back neither do I want to stay where I'm living. My boyfriend's brother and mother do everything in their power to make me move out. If I move out I will be left on the streets, I don't how much longer I can stay. I don't want to ruin the only relationship I have, he is my only support and the one that is keeping me alive. I don't want all of my hard work going down the drain, what I've strived to get the life I've always wanted.

Without support I feel like there is nothing can I do. I don't know why people hate each other so much. Sometimes I wish I was a robot so I wouldn't have to feel so depressed and empty. Sometimes I wish I was normal, so I would have support and friends that could give me a place to stay. But I'm a aspie with no friends and no where to go.

i believe that if your BF were more serious about you and your relationship together, he'd understand what's getting to you and move out with you somewhere else and do whatever it took to keep a roof over your heads at least until you got on your feet and found employment someplace. just my worth, adjusted for inflation

1. Talk to a school councillor or advisor. They should be able to offer some suggestions for finding cheap housing and jobs.

2. Talk to a social worker or welfare case worker. They may also be able to help with temporary housing while you look for work.

3. Open up your local phone book to the employment agency listings. Most phone book regions will have at least one employment agency listed. Metropolitan areas will have a number of them. Some employment agencies specialize in providing workers for one type of job, like accounting and financial stuff, but most are general work related. You can also work for them as a temporary hire, for the length of the work assignment, or take the job as a temp, with the aim of eventually becoming a permanent employee in the company you are sent to work at. Although some jobs the employment agencies handle require experience, many require little or no experience, but you will need at least a basic resume.

I did a lot of temp jobs over the years before my health problems finally put me on the sidelines. When I first started out, I didn't need a resume, but eventually it was required, even for non-skilled positions. The work offered by most employment agencies falls mostly into 2 main categories: office and factory/warehouse. You can tell the agency which you would prefer, or tell them you would take a job in either. To cast your net for more job assignments, you should register with all the employment agencies in your area. Each agency prefers that you register only with them, but it is legal to register with all of them, and will get you more work assignments if you sign with all of them. Just don't tell them that you are doing that. Many people choose to just do temp assignments, at least for a while, instead of trying for a permanent work placement. If you are in school, or on summer break, you may not be ready to take a permanent job, but can take temp assignments.

If you have little previous work skills, the office jobs you are most likely to get would be file clerk, general clerical, fax/copy clerk, etc. It would help if you are a good, and fast typist, because that pays better. If you have no office skills, some of the factory and warehouse jobs don't need any real skill. I did both office and factory/warehouse jobs over the years. I had few skills, and my Aspy issues made it hard for me to learn new stuff. Also, I have the Aspy slow hands, so I can't type fast, but I make few mistakes. Unfortunately, the companies all want fast typists. I did a lot of filing, faxing, copying, assembling batches of paperwork, stapling, envelope stuffing, etc. I also did work on factory assembly lines, but some factories were too noisy for me. Also, at some factories there were a lot of foreign workers who would hold up the assembly lines because they were too busy chatting with each other. This meant more work for everyone else because those jerks weren't pulling their share of the load. This always ticked me off because it was hard enough for me to keep up with my own work due to my Aspy issues, without having to take on extra work.

The nice part about trying a job as a temp was that I wasn't committed to it right at first, so if it wasn't a good fit I could let the employment agency know, and then I could just quit a bad fitting assignment. It is best to finish out the day, though, but at one assignment, the place was so noisy, that as soon as I found the man I was supposed to report to, I told him I couldn't stay because the noise was hurting my head too much, so I left. I was sorry about that, but I had no choice that time.

Do try the employment agencies for a job, and do talk with the school councillors and/or a social worker about finding a place to stay.

I hope this helps you. Best of luck. Remember, we on the spectrum are all:

A Different Drummer

If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
Perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
However measured or far away.

--Henry David Thoreau