Was making huge progress having setback

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Things were going fairly well. I was much less depressed. I have been offered a graduate job which I have been trying to get for over 4 years. I started riding a horse on a loan which is a childhood dream. I was thinking about having children.
I am now feeling really tired. I come home after my 5 hour part time job and want to sleep. The housework has got on top of me. I'm worried that my new job will fall through because of the medical as I have been off with work stress recently and have to negotiate adjustments for Aspergers.

The social aspects are going wrong. I feel the relationship with the horse owner is going wrong and I am about to lose the horse. I don't know where I stand and anxious about talking to her. If this falls through due to my experience I may not find a similar arrangement.
There was something over a lift where a friend got offered one and I didn't. She has now apologised but feel it was because of my ability to (not) get on with people.
At work I have been asked to find out what someone might want for a retirement present by bringing up subtly in conversation as you can guess I have been avoiding this as can't find a way of bringing up.
I feel completely disconnected from my husband. He just seems to sleep whenever we are actually together not doing separate things and it is like he is there but not there on the same wavelength.
I was doing OK socially and putting in lots of effort but no-one has contacted me. My counselling was cancelled so going a month on my own.

Well in an attempt to make u feel a lill better heres a hug.
About being tired, have you tried looking at multivitamins? I find they help me. good ones like Centrum really do work.
Work is hard for the best of us. and while people may expect you to be social I learnt to take a page out of my mums book at just do the job you are paid to do and dont worry about anyone but yourself.
a bit inconsiderate i know but, it gets her through the day.
As for the husband. sadly thats husbands these days, my father is the same... and mum has teh same frustrations as you seam to have. I am 21 living with my parents. =)
About the horse, That i really cant help you with as i am not from your area. though it would be cool if i was. but yeah.
I hope this has somehow helped if only a little bit.

Thanks it is appreciated. I could try multivitamins.
What is stupid, my job isn't that social and the phone hardly rings. It's not that stressful. There is no natural daylight though I am starting to wonder if melatonin is a problem from not getting enough light. Still I start my new fulltime job in a few weeks. Last night I fell asleep on the sofa and got woken by my alarm which has not happened for ages.

No idea with the horse. She thought she had sent me a text I didn't get so we have arranged Saturday. I told her I would be there unless she told me otherwise. I am trying to go when she is not there as easier not having someone watching over my shoulder and can have longer as I am quite slow at everything and get to ride longer as well and when I want which was the point of doing this rather than having a lesson.

Yeah i watched a study once that said that natrual lighting in a work place is better for you.
I also found that when i came back from Europe to my country, Australia that i became a lot weller than i was especially mentally n less tired.
Well I am glad that everything is sorting itself out for you =)

I understand what it's like to have a set back just as things are going so well. It always seems to all come at once, doesn't it?

One thing I've learned is that NT people can easily pick up on your energy when things aren't going your way. They are definitely less likely to want to be social and communication breaks down too. It's frustrating, because not having the opportunity to be social gives you less opportunities to be social.

If you are an Aspie, like me, then eventually things will pick up again.

I like the idea of taking a multi-vitamin. Getting some rest and being kind and gentle with yourself will be restorative too.

Good luck and feel better soon!

I'm sorry for all the troubles and I hope that things will get better for you soon.

I'm sorry for all the troubles and I hope that things will get better for you soon.