Do my coworkers just not like me?

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Okay so heres the short backstory : I work at an air force base with another group of people and one of our duties at work requires us to take turns using a government vehical to drive to a different base for a job. We take turns eachday.Today was my turn. No problem, I did the job and got back to the dorms fine. Then I txt one of the other guys in charge ( so he likes to think so i just give him that much) asking who needed the keys for tommorow. No answer. Then I just get a txt from one of the other drivers " you have the keys I need them" . I thought that was kind of rude? So I just say to come get em ( I was just upstairs) . So SHE comes up and knocks like 10 times. I open the door and she didnt say anything, just motioned for me to give her the keys and she leaves with nothing but a thanks as she was already turned around and on her way.

First of all. I don't like it when I get ignored. Especially by the guy who believes he's in charge. And secondly, why does this other girl have to be so rude? She's nice to everyone els it seems. And so is the other guy.

Noone ever says hi to me if we pass in the hallways or even recognizes me in anyway. They pretend im not there like im not worth s**t.

FML and aspergers

And I apologize for this being unorganized, im not a good writer :/

Im probably just being over emotional. Maybe the guys phone was off and perhaps the girl was in a hurry. But damn its eating away at me. Help me plz

I'm not so sure that your female co-worker was particularly rude. It's a work situation; she needed the keys and obtained them in a straight forward way, wasting no extra time or motion, she even said thanks.

At work I find things go smoothy when I overlook occasional brusk treatment by co-workers and supervisors. It actually works brilliantly considering how little effort it requires. We're all together to perform our tasks and earn a living. That's it. Why get bent out of shape emotionally over occasional brusqueness; they're not soul-mates, they're co-workers.

Yeah, things similar happen to me. At this new job I started seems like its such a hassle to get a hello or a "nice to meet you" out of co-workers.

But mountainlaurel makes a very valid and helpful point/post.

Thanks for putting that in a good perspective for me. Im just tired of my relationships with people just being work related and nothing personal. I got iritated and emotional when he didnt reply back to me and somehow it crossed over onto the female I guess.

Dear Mysterylife, Perhaps she thought that she could expect you to come downstairs to hand her the keys; some women still feel that men should behave like in the 1950's, even in a workplace situation...Sylkat

I think it can be common for aspies to get disliked unfairly in teh workplace.

You just have to realise that it's them, not you with the problem, when you have not done anything.

*hugs* I hope things get better.

^^^some people are just rude

I don't want to be too harsh because I know this is the Haven, but I think you need to rethink the way you react to your colleagues.

If you take turns driving the vehicle, can you not predict who's driving each day? Maybe it'll help if you draw out a table for yourself, or work out a place where you can leave keys safely if you're not using them.

Your right, her text was abrupt; perhaps she was in a bad mood or late or whatever... But it's not a reason to send another abrupt one, especially an order, back. That just begets bad feeling and if you're already feeling they dislike you, probably won't help. It also smacks a bit of playing games, though I'm not entirely sure why.

And, to be honest, seeing as you were off duty and she had work to do and needed the keys, I think you should have been nice and gone down with them, or at least offered. It's not a gender thing at all, it's just helping out your team

There are so many non-personal reasons why someone might not have replied to one text that I'm not even going to list them... but I understand that it's hard to feel that way when it's just one more little thing on top of the rest.. but seriously, if you can, try not to take it that way.

As for saying hi in the corridors; do you ever say hi yourself first? If so, and they still ignore you, it may not be that they dislike you but if it bothers you, start being friendly in other ways; going downstairs and giving whoever it is the keys, small stuff like that. It's not being a doormat in that situation, it's just being a good team mate and you'll get recognition as someone who helps out.

I think those are both good hypotheses and in the absence of alternative proof, you should go with these. Stress and tiredness turn everyone in to bad tempered *BLEEPS* and when everyone's int he same mood, morale is s**t.

Try and remind yourself to put the 'nice' conclusion first and give others the benefit of doubt. Even if they are known to be horrible, it's for your sake too; you have to work with these people and it make it so much easier to be friendly back when you feel you're surrounded by ok people (or at least, normal, flawed people who aren't particularily out to get you)

This. +1