If I'm not deformed what am I??

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Seriously, why is there no support group for people like me? Why am I the only person all alone with my problems?

I've dealt with violence, abuse and bullying from men including my father and grandfathers and also nasty dykes all my life because of my unconventional facial appearance. I've tried to find people online that have skeletal deformities, too, since my friends just don't get it. But there's just nothing for people like me. My friend sent me this clip of someone with some congenital deformity and the first thing they show is her BOYFRIEND. Like, seriously? I've never had anyone be attracted to me, ever, and after hanging out in clubs, with friends, in coffee shops, whatever, am convinced noone ever will be, either. Just common sense. So already I can't relate to this person since I'm doomed to be alone unless I want to be the man in a relationship which the mere thought of makes me want to vomit. I'm very girly, cry at romantic comedies etc, even though I have a manface to put it mildly.

Why am I the only person in the entire world ALL ALONE with my problem? I've never met anyone even close to being in my situation. I know I have to kill myself since there's nothing in the world that could make me feel joy or happiness, but still, it'd be nice to at least have someone to understand completely why I'm doing it.

I don't know if there are any support groups in your area specifically for skeletal deformities but there are several charities that help people with disfigurment in general.

You could try contacting these guys and see if they know of any support groups for your condition or at a minimum I'm sure they could tell you of some internet groups where you could connect with people that understand the challenges you have.

http://www.changingfaces.org.uk/

http://www.katiepiperfoundation.org.uk/

Beauty is, indeed, in the eye of the beholder.



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The point of that episode was that by you seeing the joke in it - that everyone else was ugly and she was gorgeous - proved how superficial you are. So, the point of the episode is that the trope beauty is in the eye of the beholder is BS:D Otherwise there would be people out there not getting the joke and thinking the others are gorgeous and the actress is fugly and not understanding why people are telling them there's a twist ending:D

Average people do tend to think looks are relative, since people's reactions to them vary so widely. But when all people react to you one way and your gorgeous friend the other, there isn't really any question.

DC - I've been to both sites. Neither has anything to do with the country I'm from, and the second one is completely nonapplicable because it's about acquired deformities that are obvious to others and the first one is for syndromes and disorders that are usually surgically corrected when the afflicted is a baby.

Though people do sometimes stare at me, probably trying to figure out my gender, and the reaction to my facial appearance is anything but pleasant I do not have a recognizable deformity. Insurance doesn't cover my surgery as it's considered cosmetic. Ironic, since my cosmetic deformity has crippled my life more than I dare say any functional deformity of the jaw ever could. Of course what really makes quality of life can be relative, but still.