Off to my mother in law's for the weekend. Ugh!

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I hate going there. My husbands mother is a horrible person. She doesn't like anyone or anything that isn't like her, wealthy, frugal, judgemental, superficial, and protestant. I am only frugal, but not frugal enough for her. She is in her mid 80's and has severe mobility problems and a hearing problem. She has the best hearing aids she can buy but still has to play the tv all the way up. There are speakers mounted all over the living room too.

My brother in law and 19yo nephew live with her. My BIL is selfish, superficial, placating to the point of lying about anything just to avoid a confrontation with his mother, and a drunk. My nephew is lazy, spoiled, perpetually stoned, and does absolutely nothing all day long but sit on his bed and play video games. He can't heat up food for himself, get a drink for himself, wash a load of laundry, drive himself anywhere, or do anything. I'm surprised he can wipe his on behind. He's completely NT and a weight lifter, so there is no reason he can't do it, he's just spoiled. My BIL gives him money for everything. He has every new gadget there is, he waits on him hand and foot, and I've heard the kid actually say "Dad, we need some more weed!" He's 19! At 19 I had a job, a car, a life, and cleaned up after myself. And I have AS.

I knew we were going, but I couldn't sleep last night and finally fell asleep at 6am and woke up at 10:30 and now my husband is in a hurry because he wants to get there before the ballgame starts. Well, he can just wait, because I have to wake up, finish dressing, and pack. It won't kill him.

I can stay in the bedroom and read for the entire time, or sit on the porch and look at the water and read, or get on my nephew's laptop, so it's not like I have to be around them.

I just hate going. I hate people who act one way but feel another. If she just told me outright that she doesn't like me, I could deal with that much better than her fake niceness and backhanded insults. I don't like her at all either, so it's no skin off my nose. Grrrrr, this is gonna be a fun weekend! Not!

Frances

Can't say I understand. Vacations are hard enough when you like or love the people, because of changes of schedules, more socializing, etc.

But hang in there. When will you be back? One thing that helps me is to leave a lot of time alone after coming back. And find a way to have time alone there too.

Why are you going there? Didn't you say in one of your other posts you stay home when your husband goes to see his family?

I hope that it goes well for you when you're there. Just don't listen to her if she starts getting nasty.

I usually stay home, but this time my husband has to deal with some vehicle issues and he's not good at standing up to his mother. I'm there for his moral support. We have made arrangements to have the pets taken care of while we are gone, so it's ok if I go.

Now that his mother is more or less confined to one small area because of her health and mobility problems, it's much easier. She doesn't come in and bother me and nag me about every little thing. She only does that if I go in the room she's in, which I do avoid.

Frances

It's only the weekend. We come back Sunday afternoon. I'll be alone during the day next week. I am every weekday. Here, I stay in the back bedroom with a book or my nephews laptop. They have different tastes in food than my family does, so I rarely cook here, and the laundry room is just off this room, so I can be useful as well as not have to interact with them.

I'll make the food for the ball game today though, when my BIL gets out of bed and goes to the store for the ingredients.

Frances