Facebook... do I use it differently than NT's?

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I've been having some trouble with Facebook recently...I guess they blocked me for "adding too many friends that I don't know." I added quite a few people to my profile a long time ago (I used to just randomly add people back in the day, mainly from the big science fiction conventions) just because I was incredibly lonely. I got automated messages telling me to slow down. I usually add about 5-10 people after a convention, but that's changed. But, I never felt like I could talk to people, I'm not good at long conversations. Now, I usually average about 1 person per week, but I've really slowed down on new friends. Even though the pace at which I add friends now is glacial, I got blocked for 7-10 days on the site from adding people. Anyways, I've also had some bad tendencies to say sexually-charged things (I'm sort of outspoken about my homosexuality) and people don't want to be friends with me after that.

Do I use FB differently than NT people?

I've known people who've used it like you do. When I use to have fb, some of my contacts would add people they've never even met before, while others would add people they've met at least once. Their friends would accumulate to over a thousand, though I'm sure not everyone they've friend requested accepted. I think what you're doing is okay; everyone uses fb they want to use it.


With your homosexual comments, free speech is allowed to a certain extent. So be it if they don't agree with your sexuality. That's their view.

I don't see anything wrong with adding lot of people in short amount of time. Who told you to slow down? Is it a FB violation to add too many people? I wonder if some of those random people may have reported you to FB because they didn't know you. I just ignore friend requests if I don't know them and I mean people who are not on the same forums I go to or in the same FB groups I am in or who isn't my family or who never went to my school when I attended.

I also rarely add people as friends. For one I am shy and I am always afraid of rejections. Plus I am afraid they may not remember me and report me to FB.


Yeah people will defriend you if they feel threatened by your views or your lifestyle. Sometimes they don't like seeing what you post so they defriend you or hide you from their news feed. For one, I cannot stand people posting their game status on their walls like what they did on farmville.

I know someone with Autism and he said he has, like, 800 friends on his Facebook, then when he looked at mine he said, ''oh you only got 16 friends!'' But I'm like, ''well I only add people who I know, I'm afraid to add 700 more in case they might not want me to.''

Like, what's the point of having 800 friends on Facebook? Nobody knows that many people to catch up with! I don't know where all their Facebook friends come from.

You were probably reported by some of the people you added. The only people I tend to add are ones I know, have something in common with (on the same course) or people in the clubs I've joined at university. I know some people who just add anyone they are vaguely related to. Like one mutual friend. I've had requests like that which I mostly ignore.
Have you really got a lot of friends on FB?
To be honest most people you add you never really speak to. People have a tendency not to want to start the conversations on there unless they've known you ages.
In terms of what you say, perhaps you should keep the sexually charged comments toned down until you get to know a person. You normally get vibes from people you know after a while as to whether they would mind crude or those types of comments.

I never use it at all.