I'm a TERRIBLE person to have around!

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I have high anxieties, prone to outbursts, and I consider myself an excellent lie detector. But, as an Aspie, those three do not mix. It makes me a terrible person to live with and to have around.

I have a phobia of being sick, which causes major anxiety for me if somebody is sick around me, which results in violent outbursts, which is why people have to be careful to not tell me if somebody in my house is being sick, but I can sense when somebody is acting shifty, and can suss their terrible secret out very quickly.

My brother was out drinking all night last night, and apparently has a hangover. Usually when he's hungover he just stays up in his room all day and doesn't communicate with anybody and doesn't even show his face. But earlier tonight I heard him talking quietly to my mum in the kitchen (which he doesn't normally do, hangover or no hangover). Then I caught him shuffling about in the landing, from his room to the bathroom, and back again. Then when I asked my mum what they were talking about, she said, ''nothing. He's just a bit miserable'', but then half an hour later or so, I heard my brother shuffle about again near the stairs and into the bathroom again. So I said to my mum, ''what's wrong with him? Is he ill?'' and my mum said, ''no - it's a hangover''. I said, ''is he being sick?'' and she said, ''if he is, it's a hangover''. And I said, ''I don't fear sickness if it's just from drinking. You know that'', and she said, ''if he is sick, it's a hangover'', and I said, ''is he sick then?'' and she said, ''I don't know, but if he is, it's a hangover''. There's something about her tone of voice and lack of eye contact what feels very strange to me, because normally if I asked that, she'd either just tell me straight, ''oh he's been throwing up - it's definately because he has a hangover'' or, ''no'', in a tone of voice what really means ''no, what a random thing to suddenly ask''. So I just know he is being sick, but because my mum is not telling me out right, (and she knows that I don't have outbursts or anxieties when somebody is hungover), I've got the impression that it's a bug.

So even when people keep things from me, I can still suss them out - unless they're bloody good liars. It makes me feel like an awful person to live with, if you know what I mean, (being prone to panic attacks).

Sounds more like she's tired of your sickness issue.

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smudge, don't assume that nobody cares about Joe90. They're probably just exasperated. I think it's a bad idea to talk about problems just to get sympathy unless you say it directly ("I need sympathy. Can you give sympathy right now?"), but I do think it's important to talk about problems when you need to find ways to fix them. You're not a terrible person to have around; your mom's just probably frustrated. Maybe she's sick or something.

Also, how do you notice things like tone of voice and lack of eye contact so well? You're good!