what a lonely new year's eve.

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I feel so out of touch with people. I don't know what it's going to take to help me connect. What happened to me? I wasn't like this before. I used to care about my friends and family and other people. Now I feel so disconnected from my feelings and the feelings of other people. Nothing matters to me about other people. Not in the longest time. I really hope this doesn't always stay like this. This can't just always be this way. I need to find a way to connect. I need to find a way to face my fears, and not be discouraged by all the BS out there. I need other people. I've somehow convinced myself that I don't need other people but how can I expect myself to go on like this? They don't need to understand.

I've felt the same way too. I didnt get invited to any party either, no one invites me to anything. I myself want other people in my life, I want that good friend who I can talk to and see, someone who listens and understands me.

I'm not sure what caused the disconnect but there are things out there to try and get you to reconnect to the world around you. Do you see a therapist? Your therapist can give you suggestions on reconnecting to people, like going to social groups, my therapist recommended that for me since I'm not a good social person.

Happy new year too, hopefully 2012 will get off to a good start for you!

Aw, thank you so much, MacGyverAspie.. Your response really helped cheer me up! It's been really hard for me to find those friends, and keep them. I think trying to keep my friends has been the biggest obstacle, since they tend to move forward faster than I do. I feel more determined to work on my friendships and finding new people. I'm starting to remember why it's so important...

I had a therapist for a few years but it started to get a bit strained and I found less and less to talk about. I really didn't know how to work out the situation and my therapist mostly held back his opinion and let me figure things out on my own. The sessions became shorter and my therapist would check his watch more often, lol. This was before I found out I had Asperger Syndrome. I suppose I can look for a therapist who specializes in people with AS.

I did go to an AS support group last month and it helped me a lot. It mostly helped me to accept that I'm an aspie. It was interesting. I can't wait for the next get together.

Thanks for wishing me a happy new year! I have a feeling it's going to be a good one!
I hope 2012 is going to be awesome for you too!!

I'm glad it cheered you up! I still try to find friends too but it seems harder and harder to find them. At least I'm on here because I can relate to other aspies and feel welcomed and talk with fellow aspies like yourself.

I see a therapist who knows AS and I feel it is helping me to try and be more social but its taking time. I should try to find an AS support group and see what I can learn from it.

Your welcome! I do think 2012 will be a good year, I'll just take it a day at a time.

I've felt a little lonely on New Years Eve. One of my best friends was at his dad's place. The oldest of my best friends isn't very sociable, so I've sent her home early. My ex friend showed up outside the lobby of my apartment building and I told her I was busy. I didn't want to get mixed up with her again. I guess that it was all for the best.

I was at home by my self with my Autistic son on New Years eve. I gave him a bath and he pooed in it. Then for the 2nd night running he took his nappy off in bed and pooed in bed, then wiped it all over himself then on his sheets and the floor and so-on and went to sleep. I had to clean him and everything up.
It was a bit lonely and not much fun. But not that bad I suppose.

Every single person I knew who were between the ages of 17 and 30 were ALL at some sort of party or whatever, no matter how introverted or serious or quiet or unsociable they are. I am in that age range, but I stayed at home. My uncle came round with his 8-year-old son, but I will give it about 8 to 10 years and I won't see him for dust on any new years eve because he will be invited to a party (he is extroverted already).

I don't care for parties anyway. I would rather go up to London with my family or a friend or boyfriend for new years eve and watch all the fireworks at 12 midnight then stay the night in a hotel. That's kind of a party, but you don't have to act in a sociable sort of way because it's a different sort of thing, and there are SO many different types of people there, most are with families or friends, and there are people of all ages, from babies to elderly, and you can get hotdogs and not obliged to drink yourself stupid.

That's what I'd like to do for new years eve.