Disappointed after a long time.

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I am a well adjusted aspie. And I have used my thinking for dealing with anything and everything till now and have been successful.

Earning money has not been a problem as I can teach well(for engineering, private classes for a group.) and get paid well. But, teaching became mundane, as in.

I was not learning anything. I was getting bored. I want to learn/study (math,physics). But do not have the money to put myself into a college.

So, I am trying to start a company. Most of the product is done. Have been applying for funding. Although, not successful in acquiring the funds, have been getting very positive feedback from them on what I have been developing.So, all in all on the company front things are okay. If the company was funded, it would have eased things a bit(finance wise) as I am not earning currently and have some minor debts.

In doing all the above and taking care of myself. I think I neglected and ignored any emotional needs I had. And for the heck of it I cannot understand them.

In a recent incident (which a girl initiated) I did not know how to react (I froze)! And I am not a guy who freezes like that in any weird incident. Haven't had any romantic relationships till now. May be this was a reason.

Now, this incident made me panic & realize that I am hopeless when it comes to emotions/emotional situations. I am 26!

The above coupled with things going just okay on the company front have left me disappointed.

I will be back to normal(psyche wise) on the company front. But the emotional stuff I have no idea about.

Any idea on how unhealthy is it to ignore/neglect any emotional needs?

P.S. thanks for reading.

I think you are doing it right, trying to get your economic situation in order before pursuing intimate relationships.

Just because you froze once (or even if you did it a few times) doesn't mean you are really bad at this sort of thing or hopeless. I don't think that is logical.

Everybody makes mistakes. When you were teaching students and they made mistakes, did you throw up your hands and say they were hopeless? I bet not; you probably told them they needed to try again. And even when you had a student who was particularly good, can you say he never screwed up?

Romantic situations are hard, even for most NT's. It is very normal to be anxious about it, to freeze, to forget what to do. I think part of the reason is because you are putting yourself out there where someone can judge you.

Don't be too hard on yourself, just try again.