Bored - lonely

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I always get incredibly bored during the holidays. It's the time which always makes me realize how little of a social life I really have. When I'm in class (I'm in university) I talk to a few people and I usually don't feel that lonely, even though I rarely take part in activities outside of classes. I don't have any real friends there, a few good acquaintances but I never really get much further than that in socializing. This means that during the holidays I usually have to find ways to entertain myself. I enjoy reading and watching tv, listening to music so I get by the first days of holiday but after a while I get so lonely I start feeling a little depressed (I used to suffer from severe depression and I take meds for it but during times like these it's still pretty hard for me) and I can no longer enjoy those activities. Yes, I know I should try to make friends (I definitely enjoy social contact, I'm just not very good at it) but that's not really an option during vacation.

Do any of you recognize this problem? How do you deal with it?

I feel the same way... It's not that often I see people I know outside of school... And I also get bored easily...

How I handle it? I actually have a good friend (an NT) who knows my socializing problems so he is great at inviting me out for a drink with his friends or inviting me over to watch a movie... Otherwise I visit the library to find a brand new book or try to catch someone I know on Facebook...

But of course I have those days where nothing is working and I'm bored and restless... These days I usually go for a walk with some music in my ears and a smoke in my hand (don't do the ladder if you don't smoke though) or just plainly take a few hours on the couch...

I also tend to write every little thought in my head down on a piece of paper and sometimes I get a short story or a poem out of it...

I tend to find projects I can do (I build props and scifi costumes), or go to the gym, or go swimming or out on my mountain bike.

Are there any clubs around you that cater to your interests? Hobbies are a really good way of making friends, as you have something in common with those folks right from the start.

Chatting & posting online helps me. You anyone else is welcome to PM me if your looking for someone to talk to