Why do I have to be so sensative?

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All it ever does is piss everyone off and make me feel worse about everything.....I really wish I knew how to stop an emotional response from taking place when something upsets me. Trying to hold it all in does not seem to work very well because them I am bound to get set off at some point and let everything out because I just can't keep it contained anymore. Not to mention I over-react to everything.

So if anyone who's not to frustrated with me has any advice or anything it would be appreciated and I apologize ahead of time if I take anything personally but please don't rip on me for it.

Do you understand why those things that upset you do so?

Well it kind of depends...If I feel like someone is insulting me I take it personally, and apparently there is a lot of me feeling insulted when that is not the intent. Though I think some of what I am currently upset about does have to do with a bit of insulting/harsh treatment from others I cannot deny a I do have a major issue with taking things personally and being too sensitive. I mean I just can't seem to toughen up enough...and it's really bringing me down as I can see how this effects my ability to work I mean I am afraid of actually applying to jobs because I don't want to make a fool out of myself and I can see how this could potentially prevent me from ever having a meaningful relationship or even keep friendships I do have going.

Also it seems like I am very good at missing all social cues and giving off all kinds of social cues I am not even aware of...causing major misunderstanding issues and me being over-sensitive only makes it worse.

I just don't know what the hell to do about it.

Don't rip yourself over your reactions to upsetting cirmcumstances. When I feel I'm going to lose it, I try to find a place where I can be alone ... and then I concentrate on my breathing until I feel better.

Well everyone else does so why shouldn't I? I mean I will try not to but I am getting so many mixed messages today....I am terribly confused and based on how things have gone and other events IRL I feel like maybe things would be a little better if I could at least quit having emotional responses to things.

Good luck fighting off emotional responses Just try to get through it when you're feeling it. It feels like forever, but it won't last forever.

Sweet Pea hugs

I'm also a very sensitive person. I keep secrets from my family in order to protect my feelings. I know that as soon as any of my family members find out that there's something wrong in my life, either they rip though me or they don't believe me. I also don't need people ripping at me in this thread, either. If you don't like this thread, don't post in it.

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I'm trying but its already caused me to kinda ruin my reputation on this website so even people who normally at least tolerate me are fed up with me.......so I am hoping I can figure something out before I ruin anything else. I mean I was actually crying earlier because of the mess I caused here. how pathetic.

I also cry when I cause trouble for myself here. You're not alone. I also hope that you don't get banned. You're one of my favourite members.

That is one of the major reasons I am usually afraid to talk to people in my family about my problems I am worried they are either not going to understand and get the way wrong idea like last time I tried to talk to my mom. Or they will criticize me for having a depressed attitude I cannot help having due to how I feel and go on about how I have to try, or just need to get over it or 'fake it till you make it.' uhhh I just wish I did not care so much........I cannot even seem to drink enough to drown my damn emotions.

Lol! Don't cry; "time keeps slipp'n into the future."

Well from my understanding I won't be banned.....I'm just still feeling pretty bad about the whole thing because I did not think it would escalate the way it did. I thought I was being pretty clear and was making rational points and that it would actually make things in The Haven a little better at least that was the intent I had...........but apparently according to the other posters responding I was making ridiculous requests, playing mind games, emotionally black-mailing people, wanting certain posters banned or a number of other things to happen to them, ect. so I am quite confused on top of still being kinda upset.

The thing that I can't stand, is when my mum tells me that I can talk to her about anything. If I talk about my feelings, she turns around and gets angry at me.

That is just the sort of thing my mom used to pull all the time 'Now you remember you can talk to me about anything you need to, I'll be here for you.'...then you go to talk to her about something and she'd flip out. Hence the reason I was always afraid to even ask her anything for fear of having to endure a large amount of yelling and anger and possibly being grounded from computer and t.v......she could not very well ground me from the phone or going to friends houses because I didn't have any friends to talk to or to visit and all I did besides my limited t.v and computer time was read books, listen to pink floyd and draw pictures or attempt to write.

When I used to tell my mum about a problem that I was having, her favourite response would be "It's all in your head."

I told my mum that Pete Quaife of The Kinks passed away, her response was, "Shelby, they're old! People don't last forever!"

I hate it when my mum responds like in the two examples that I've explained.

I hate when people including family members pull the 'it's all in you're head card.' and then go on like you have no clue what you were even talking about to begin with. At least that is how i usually experience it people use it to discredit my experience or whatever on account of I was just mis-perceiving things.

then one my sister forgets sometimes is that she should not tell me to calm down if I express slight frustration or distaste because chances are I simply on the verge of losing my calm telling me to calm down is guaranteed to push me to the point of losing my cool and then getting offended and walking away.

think of the scene from Anger Management if you've seen that...where the dude finally after being fed up screams 'I am calm!' I can totally see myself in such a situation.